Why its almost always women putting partner's career ahead of their own
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Anonymous
| This is 2026. Why aren't more men doing it? |
Anonymous
You know Women have a vagina. They know how to negotiate |
Anonymous
Not sure. This isn’t universal but dh is in his dream job and so I’ve always supported that. I mean he said in high school he would do this, got his bachelors, and masters degrees to do exactly this. Every day he still comes home with a smile on his face. Two years ago he was offered double the salary at a private sector company and he declined. I’m still salty but I understood. Randomly I just floated around for a while before becoming a bit too good at my job. I make more than dh. I only have a bachelors degree. I think most women prioritize the man’s job thinking some day they could be a sahm. Men make pretty awful sahds (and I’ve known a bunch). Even great fathers like my own husband would make bad sahds. He can’t play with the kids, cook dinner and also keep the house clean. (Lots of SAHMs aren’t good at their jobs either) |
Anonymous
| I think a lot of it is age difference. If the man is 5-10 years older than the woman, he’s likely been in his career several years longer and makes more money. So it makes “sense” in the short term to prioritize the job with more income, even if it makes very little sense in the long run. |
Anonymous
| I always have prioritiezed my career and always will. |
Anonymous
| ^prioritized! Unlike spelling, which I do not prioritize |
Anonymous
| There are many stay at home dads these days. It is less a case of putting your partners career ahead of your own, and more of two people deciding together how to go forward. |
Anonymous
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No idea. Women don’t really want careers?
I’m the wife and my career has always come first before my husband’s. Why? I am more driven and have higher earning potential. |
Anonymous
+1. |
Anonymous
| Because most women don't want to be married to men who would take a step back and make their wife be the primary breadwinner. In my experience, this is true even with childfree couples where pregnancy/birth/parenting aren't factors. Super career-focused women are outliers although an out-sized amount of discourse focuses on them. |
Anonymous
+1 million |
Anonymous
| Because when you ask a couple who wants to stay home with a breastfeeding baby more, it's usually the female who steps up to the plate. That sentiment spreads like watercolor on wet paper into other aspects of the "who's job" decision making. |
Anonymous
| Because women cannot count on men to take charge at home. |
Anonymous
| Because women earn less on average |
Anonymous
The younger of 2026's men are working 2016's career with 2006's messaging. None of that maps on super well to the current reality, post pandemic, etc. I would expect that more men WILL be staying home going forward, if only because 2006's messaging for women was very GirlBoss and 2016 was even more that, and you might find that women are now assuming leadership roles with SAH husbands. At least that seems like it would be a nice thing to try since the current model has a 1 in 3 sexual assault rate for women. |