PDA vent

[Anonymous]

I am certain DC (teen) has PDA. Every single factor is right on the mark. Living with them is insanely dodfiybit you would never know for the outside. In forty think DH has it too, which explains a lot. But he doesn’t believe in it and thinks DC is simply a spoiled brat.

I can’t take any more. They both suck and there are day that I wish I could leave them both to be honest. My entire being has been sacrificed for these two people who are unable to be civil if upset and unable to function properly. Yeah, I know, it’s your kid so you do what you need to, etc.

Unless you have a PDA kid, no tips requested… they won’t apply. Trust me.

Vent over.

[Anonymous]

^Difficult but… no idea where dodyfit came from from!

[Anonymous]

I suspect this in my tween. She has anxiety and ADHD. I would be shocked if it was mild autism too, but that hasn’t been diagnosed. ODD has also been discussed.

It’s been a long road and there have been times I’ve wanted to leave too. Things are better at home than at school, and better when we have a routine than during time off or travel. Therapy intermittently helped - we didn’t see immediate results, but will occasionally talk about using her strategies, so she’s learned something. Meds have definitely helped.

No true advice, but a lot of empathy. I would have also thought a kid was just spoiled if I didn’t see this with my own eyes. Her brain is just different and she sees things wildly differently than those around her do. It’s hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect this in my tween. She has anxiety and ADHD. I would be shocked if it was mild autism too, but that hasn’t been diagnosed. ODD has also been discussed.

It’s been a long road and there have been times I’ve wanted to leave too. Things are better at home than at school, and better when we have a routine than during time off or travel. Therapy intermittently helped - we didn’t see immediate results, but will occasionally talk about using her strategies, so she’s learned something. Meds have definitely helped.

No true advice, but a lot of empathy. I would have also thought a kid was just spoiled if I didn’t see this with my own eyes. Her brain is just different and she sees things wildly differently than those around her do. It’s hard.

* I would NOT be shocked…

[Anonymous]

I feel you op. I have found 5-mthf supplement somewhat helpful for my kid regarding this. Also lots of protein (salmon or steak every other day). I think the hard thing is how blind they are to their own limitations, so you have to be on top of that for them both. I worry about my kid putting that burden on a partner someday, frankly.

[Anonymous]

Also have a pda kid. Much younger so def no advice. But they’re so tough. Good luck