Let teen sleep in clothes?

[Anonymous]

My 13 YO DD often wants to sleep in the clothes she was wearing all day. Typically only if she was wearing athletic clothes or sweats, not if she had more of an outfit on. She will always brush her teeth and wash her face.

I feel like she’s too old for me to “force” to put on pajamas and this doesn’t seem worth the battle. BUT I’ll be honest - I feel like a crappy parent for having a kid who doesn’t properly get ready for bed.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Clothes that have been outside don't get on or in bed. That's a germ and dirt issue.

Clothes that were worn in the home only can be slept in.

And you can leave the house in what you wore to bed if it is outside suitable.

[Anonymous]

I'm not a micromanager or germaphobe and occasionally did this as a teen. That being said I understand why some people would find it gross. It's really up to you if you want to pick that battle

[Anonymous]

No, those clothes have been on gross cafeteria chairs, plus lots of classroom chairs, maybe the gym floor, who knows where else. That’s gross. She can change into clean sweats. I would be totally fine with sleeping in the clothes for the next day, but once pants especially have been out of the house, they don’t go in the bed.

[Anonymous]

I’m an adult and do this. In my opinion, lots of people outgrow the need to have special pajamas. Nothing wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

Nasty!!! No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, those clothes have been on gross cafeteria chairs, plus lots of classroom chairs, maybe the gym floor, who knows where else. That’s gross. She can change into clean sweats. I would be totally fine with sleeping in the clothes for the next day, but once pants especially have been out of the house, they don’t go in the bed.

Honest question- what do you think is going to happen if clothes worn outside the house end up in the bed?

[Anonymous]

I‘d probably let it go.

Since she’s not showering before bed, I don’t think wearing her day clothes will significantly increase the dirt that she and/or the bed are exposed to. They’re obviously comfortable are she wouldn’t want to wear them. They might get wrinkled, but who’s going to see if they do? Potentially, I guess they could possibly get a little stretched out, but with sweats and athletic clothes, would it matter?

I really don’t see how it matters much. The only thing that would seem affected is your idea of what a parent “should” do. If it’s over your personal line, maybe you could negotiate a compromise by getting her additional sweats so that she could switch into a clean pair before bed as her pajamas.
If it’s any consolation, I think as parents we all take shortcuts, pick our battles, and eventually have to decide what works for our family, regardless of any external idealized parenting standards.

[Anonymous]

Her bed will be a filthy nest so no point trying to bathe or wear anything clean until she changes her sheets

[Anonymous]

That's filthy behavior.
Should always shower and never wear public clothing in bed.

[Anonymous]

I would not want to do that myself, but I cannot imagine trying to micromanage what my teenager wears to bed

[Anonymous]

I would not micromanage that - but what my kid does is change into fresh clothes at night and wear them to school the next day (sometimes adding a hoodie if it is a cold day). This works great!

[Anonymous]

This wouldn’t bother me - don’t sweat it, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, those clothes have been on gross cafeteria chairs, plus lots of classroom chairs, maybe the gym floor, who knows where else. That’s gross. She can change into clean sweats. I would be totally fine with sleeping in the clothes for the next day, but once pants especially have been out of the house, they don’t go in the bed.

Honest question- what do you think is going to happen if clothes worn outside the house end up in the bed?

https://www.cdc.gov/mrsa/prevention/index.html

You breed bacteria, probably accumulate pesticides and other chemicals where you sleep

[Anonymous]

When is she showering