Have you ever caught your spouse lying?

[Anonymous]

What happened?

[Anonymous]

I've never caught her telling the truth to be perfectly honest with you.

[Anonymous]

In grad school my husband had to take a PE class for some reason. He didn't want to go, but was worried I'd say something (I wouldn't). He started pretending to go, going to a Panera, having dinner, and coming home. He even wet his hair in the bathroom to fake having been in a pool. I don't remember how I caught him, but it was very funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never caught her telling the truth to be perfectly honest with you.

+1 with my cheating wife

[Anonymous]

I once asked if he had ordered something I'd asked him to order ...he said yes but shipment was delayed. When the order arrived the order date was on it. It was for the day after I'd asked him if he ordered it. That's about the extent of the lies I've ever caught him in

[Anonymous]

So many lies. Cleverly, he believed that they technically weren’t lies if he didn’t fully answer a question or only told a partial answer which covered the truth but left out the lie portion. He also hid a ton which is not quite lying but certainly dishonest. I’m in divorce proceedings and pretty much every week a new big lie is revealed. Some of it is hurtful, some of it malicious, and some of it is so dumb I can’t understand why he used the energy to do it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, early in our marriage, and ever since then, I haven't trusted a word they say and have verified when it matters most.

[Anonymous]

My husband lies about the stupidest things like eating lunch, things he didn't do but I know he did etc. It's a huge character flaw of his as he did it as a child and still continues to do it. Therapy didn't help either

I verify then trust anything he says.

[Anonymous]

I caught him eating breakfast at McDonald’s for 43 straight days

[Anonymous]

Yes. She said she was working late, but I had called her office phone and she didn't pick up.

[Anonymous]

Yep

[Anonymous]

How do you get along with people that lie? I have a huge problem getting along with liars. I know its common, but I hate putting energy into things only to find out Ive been lied to. Then I hold a grudge.

[Anonymous]

Yep. He exaggerates about how long things take, lies about whether he took the dog out, and other minor things. It causes huge trust issues for me. Logically, I know everyone lies but it feels terrible.

[Anonymous]

Yes, adhd means regular lies. It means I trust almost nothing he says.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I tried to be "understanding". Then it got too much. He lied about who was paying his part of the mortgage (his mom!), his debts (not 2,000, but 20,000), and how much he was working (hardly at all) - saw that when I got his W-2 and it was 19,000. This is a man in his 40s. I left and I am happier. Can't trust a liar.