Main reason for divorce

[Anonymous]

What do you think the main reason for divorce is? If you exclude cheating.

[Anonymous]

Resentment, not appreciating each other...

[Anonymous]

Money & Sex

[Anonymous]

Most people won't (often legally can't) tell you about abuse, but it's present in a shockingly high number of divorce cases. Often it's emotional/financial rather than physical, but the scars that leaves are often worse. Even when it is also physical the emotional and financial components are often there.

[Anonymous]

It's cheating. up to 60%. It may seem lower because people don't talk about it.
But every divorced woman I've talked to since my husband left for mistress has told me their husband also cheated (even when no one else other than their closest friend/family know about it.)
Also, when I had several divorce lawyer consults, they also told me almost all divorces involve cheating. It's so prevalent, that's why the law shifted to no fault divorces- specifically because it was taking too much of the court's time to try to sort out damages due to adultery, so now the default is simply 50/50 no matter what. What a slap in the face it was to learn that all marriages/divorces contain adultery, so get over it.

Next highest cause of divorce is domestic abuse, approx. 25%

[Anonymous]

For us, it would be the complete inability to communicate about our relationship. That and weight gain by one spouse effectively killing intimacy.

[Anonymous]

Easy:physical and mental abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's cheating. up to 60%. It may seem lower because people don't talk about it.
But every divorced woman I've talked to since my husband left for mistress has told me their husband also cheated (even when no one else other than their closest friend/family know about it.)
Also, when I had several divorce lawyer consults, they also told me almost all divorces involve cheating. It's so prevalent, that's why the law shifted to no fault divorces- specifically because it was taking too much of the court's time to try to sort out damages due to adultery, so now the default is simply 50/50 no matter what. What a slap in the face it was to learn that all marriages/divorces contain adultery, so get over it.

Next highest cause of divorce is domestic abuse, approx. 25%

But this is like saying you died of liver failure when the real problem was alcoholism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's cheating. up to 60%. It may seem lower because people don't talk about it.
But every divorced woman I've talked to since my husband left for mistress has told me their husband also cheated (even when no one else other than their closest friend/family know about it.)
Also, when I had several divorce lawyer consults, they also told me almost all divorces involve cheating. It's so prevalent, that's why the law shifted to no fault divorces- specifically because it was taking too much of the court's time to try to sort out damages due to adultery, so now the default is simply 50/50 no matter what. What a slap in the face it was to learn that all marriages/divorces contain adultery, so get over it.

Next highest cause of divorce is domestic abuse, approx. 25%

I think that people share their mostly-private reasons for divorce only once they encounter someone with the same reasons. So in my case, it wasn't cheating, but abuse and his mental health issues, and I have stumbled into so many divorces that ended for those two reasons. I have a friend whose marriage ended with cheating, and she was startled by how many people have pulled her aside and wanted to talk about their own experience. I think cheating is less prevalent than what you're suggesting and/or your attorney happens to work with a specific population. Mine did a lot of litigation and high-conflict divorces, so naturally the bulk of his work was people in divorces with spouses with mental illness, personality disorders, abusers, etc.

[Anonymous]

Abuse, adultery and addiction.

[Anonymous]

Stagnation, Complacency, Resentment and Contempt usually stemming from adultery, abuse and lack of communication. Expectations and needs going unmet for years because they weren’t clearly communicated creates a belief that the relationship cannot change or grow.

[Anonymous]

Excluding cheating, probably money.

[Anonymous]

Lack of connection - seeing the good in the other person, wanting what’s best for them. And the lack of the other person feeling those things for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people won't (often legally can't) tell you about abuse, but it's present in a shockingly high number of divorce cases. Often it's emotional/financial rather than physical, but the scars that leaves are often worse. Even when it is also physical the emotional and financial components are often there.

Mine was emotional and financial and I am in a public facing role and I quickly learned that I can’t say anything about it.

[Anonymous]

Money

My SIL divorced my brother because he could not hold a job for the 25 years they were married

I told her to leave him year one.

She always had a job sometimes two.

Him he prays on old people that are sick. It’s horrific.

Team SIL always