Friend loses her mind every time she’s not invited to something

[Anonymous]

I have a friend, not a close friend, more of an acquaintance, that absolutely loses her mind anytime she’s not invited to something. She heard I went to dinner with 2 other couples (no we didn’t post on social media of anything, someone else not even in our friend group asked me directly what I was doing and with who at the pool when picking up kids and I guess mentioned to their spouse who told her. these people aren’t in our friend group, just random acquaintances) She called me all sorts of names and freaked out on my friend too about me. The irony is she just had a big party at her house and didn’t invite we or one of the 3 but I didn’t mind or care. How would you respond to this?

[Anonymous]

Have you been drinking again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend, not a close friend, more of an acquaintance, that absolutely loses her mind anytime she’s not invited to something. She heard I went to dinner with 2 other couples (no we didn’t post on social media of anything, someone else not even in our friend group asked me directly what I was doing and with who at the pool when picking up kids and I guess mentioned to their spouse who told her. these people aren’t in our friend group, just random acquaintances) She called me all sorts of names and freaked out on my friend too about me. The irony is she just had a big party at her house and didn’t invite we or one of the 3 but I didn’t mind or care. How would you respond to this?

I wouldn't respond, and I would cut a person like this out of my life immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend, not a close friend, more of an acquaintance, that absolutely loses her mind anytime she’s not invited to something. She heard I went to dinner with 2 other couples (no we didn’t post on social media of anything, someone else not even in our friend group asked me directly what I was doing and with who at the pool when picking up kids and I guess mentioned to their spouse who told her. these people aren’t in our friend group, just random acquaintances) She called me all sorts of names and freaked out on my friend too about me. The irony is she just had a big party at her house and didn’t invite we or one of the 3 but I didn’t mind or care. How would you respond to this?

You don’t. When you know better - You do better.

Leave her be.

[Anonymous]

You don't respond - - you don't give her the floor

[Anonymous]

So you and your husband went to dinner with Barack & Michelle, and George & Laura, and somehow told Hillary, who told Milania, and then Milania flipped out to Hillary about how terrible you are?

I'd tell Hillary she doesn't need to tell you that kind of stuff if it ever happens again because of how ridiculous it is.

[Anonymous]

You don’t respond. You distance yourself.

[Anonymous]

That's not a friend. That's a tiresome person who you need to give the slow fade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you been drinking again?

LOL, this.

[Anonymous]

So tired of these made threads.

[Anonymous]

Either she's totally nuts or you're embellishing or editing this story in a way to make her sound crazy.

If she's crazy, just ignore and cut her out. No further action needed.

If the story is actually more complicated than "she's nuts," you have to actually tell us the real story to get good advice. Even if it makes her look a bit better and you look a bit worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either she's totally nuts or you're embellishing or editing this story in a way to make her sound crazy.

If she's crazy, just ignore and cut her out. No further action needed.

If the story is actually more complicated than "she's nuts," you have to actually tell us the real story to get good advice. Even if it makes her look a bit better and you look a bit worse.

These posts are such clear examples of unreliable narrators. If this was the whole truth of the matter, no sane person would need to crowdsource an answer on DCUM or anywhere else. But it's probably half-true, at best, and OP is selectively omitting the part where OP looks like the AH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So tired of these made threads.

This sounds a lot like a thread in the elementary forum about a mom who totally flips out if not invited but never invites anyone herself. Yeah this sounds made u.

[Anonymous]

Uh how old are you two OP??

Because as an adult, most people wouldn’t want to waste their time socializing w/someone who would call them names!!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either she's totally nuts or you're embellishing or editing this story in a way to make her sound crazy.

If she's crazy, just ignore and cut her out. No further action needed.

If the story is actually more complicated than "she's nuts," you have to actually tell us the real story to get good advice. Even if it makes her look a bit better and you look a bit worse.

These posts are such clear examples of unreliable narrators. If this was the whole truth of the matter, no sane person would need to crowdsource an answer on DCUM or anywhere else. But it's probably half-true, at best, and OP is selectively omitting the part where OP looks like the AH.

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