Venmo/Zelle requests on wedding invitation

Anonymous
Is this normal?

It has been a while since we got married. We mailed out invitations.

We just received an electronic invitation with a link to their website with a Venmo/zelle link.

Is this normal or tacky?
Anonymous
I'd say tacky. An electronic save-the-date is fine but invitations should be paper.
Anonymous
Ugh. Beyond tacky. I would decline the whole thing.
Anonymous
I don't even care about electronic invitations anymore. I've gotten old and the mail sucks and stuff is expensive. But the Zelle/venmo link is a step way too far. It would be one thing if there was a link to a wedding details website and it was listed there. But on the invitation itself? Super duper ick.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I don't even care about electronic invitations anymore. I've gotten old and the mail sucks and stuff is expensive. But the Zelle/venmo link is a step way too far. It would be one thing if there was a link to a wedding details website and it was listed there. But on the invitation itself? Super duper ick.


I agree with all of this. The waste surrounding paper invitations is beyond me. A link on the wedding site it fine, not on the invitation.
Anonymous
Don't mind the electronic invites. The venmo link is tacky. At least go through the effort of setting up a "house downpayment" or "honeymoon" fund where people can contribute.
Anonymous
Taaaaaaacky.
Anonymous
5 years ago I would have really gotten upset and muttered endlessly about it being tacky. I think now I'm just beaten down and tired. If the young people would rather have money via Zelle than serving spoons, who am I to judge? I'm going through a nasty divorce and my heart breaks looking at some of the things that people lovingly chose for us. It's all just meaningless in the end, so you might as well give them cash so they can choose their own meaningless stuff.
Anonymous
Super tacky.
Just curious, how many tattoos does the bride have?
Anonymous
Tacky.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:5 years ago I would have really gotten upset and muttered endlessly about it being tacky. I think now I'm just beaten down and tired. If the young people would rather have money via Zelle than serving spoons, who am I to judge? I'm going through a nasty divorce and my heart breaks looking at some of the things that people lovingly chose for us. It's all just meaningless in the end, so you might as well give them cash so they can choose their own meaningless stuff.


That's what Asian people give at wedding, CASH !!! Average is $400 per couple.
Anonymous
Maybe the tackiest thing I’ve ever heard OMFG
Anonymous
Electronic invitations are fine. 45,47 ruined USPS.
Anonymous
Every single wedding I have been invited to in the last two years (at least five) has included a written invitation (or save the date) with information on the wedding website, and every single wedding website has included a link for a "honeymoon fund" or something similar that essentially redirects to a Venmo link. The most popular wedding websites, like Zola, are preset to default to a Venmo or credit card link. My friends and I - several of whom have recently or are hosting weddings in the next 18 months - talked about this and they ALL preferred to have the link. They said they like to give registry gifts for the shower/engagement and cash for the wedding. They actually changed my mind. FWIW, these women are all in their 50s and 60s.
Anonymous
This is gross.
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