Single during the holidays

[Anonymous]

I’m recently separated and honestly the holiday season starting is making me very sad. I was at Whole Foods earlier and I started crying. I don’t have a husband and he killed my dreams of having a family.

I’m dreading this holiday season!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, it's hard to break up with someone and the holiday season doesn't make it easier.

[Anonymous]

Volunteer. Plenty of people less fortunate than you who are alone too, and would appreicate the help and kindness.

[Anonymous]

The year of "firsts" is really hard and things take on outsized meaning. The year my mom died, Mother's Day felt like an all out assault. Last year was my first year alone on Christmas ever due to a separation. It felt unbearably sad and unfair. But like so many things, once you get through it – and you will – it will never hurt as much as the first round, and you can remind yourself that you were able to muscle through.

If there are things you enjoy – indulge in them (unless its seriously unhealthy like going on a bender). This is the time for it.

[Anonymous]

yeah I am single and childless and the holidays suck. I just get through them.

[Anonymous]

I suggest doing some very organized group activities. Scuba diving trip. Cooking school. Cruise. Walking tours of warm cities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suggest doing some very organized group activities. Scuba diving trip. Cooking school. Cruise. Walking tours of warm cities.

Op here. I wish I had money to do that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Volunteer. Plenty of people less fortunate than you who are alone too, and would appreicate the help and kindness.

Agree
Also, do you have friends you can do things with? Yes they might have family stuff going on, but someone might be up for a morning hike. I’m meeting a friend for a hike Thanksgiving day then we are serving at our church from 11-130. We will eat there ( myself, spouse 13yoDD) then do dined thing at home then in laws are coming over just for dessert late afternoon.

[Anonymous]

Get on the dating apps. Many people are in the same boat. I met a nice guy. We're just friends but having fun. I wish you luck.

[Anonymous]

It's you again. Get off DCUM and give yourself the gift of therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suggest doing some very organized group activities. Scuba diving trip. Cooking school. Cruise. Walking tours of warm cities.

Op here. I wish I had money to do that

I admit that many of these activities are expensive, but some are free. You can stay local and look for them. Volunteering is also free.

[Anonymous]

💔

So sorry you are feeling this way now OP.

A good idea would be to turn your pain ➡️ purpose.

Why not take some time to volunteer this holiday season at a homeless shelter/organization?
You can assist in serving up hot meals to those less fortunate.

Or perhaps donate your services to your local animal shelter??
You can always volunteer to walk dogs or just care for animals there.
(Only if you love animals!)

This holiday season will most definitely be the toughest one since your separation is fresh…..keep in mind that next season things will not hurt as much and so on.

Life will continue to evolve and so will you!
Wishing you only the very best!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's you again. Get off DCUM and give yourself the gift of therapy.

Hey….it’s YOU again.

Hey jerk have a ❤️.

Not the OP

[Anonymous]

I have been alone for Christmas for 6 years since divorce. I celebrate it with my kids later due to them traveling to see his family.

I get Thanksgiving.

I don’t really mind. I binge watch movies all day and then it is the 26th. It is better than being married to the guy and spending Christmas with his family who I can’t stand.

[Anonymous]

Don’t you have a family? Parents? Siblings? Aunts? Cousins?

My brother and BIL aren’t married and childless. They have always come to our house or our parents.