Exposing AP?

[Anonymous]

Have you exposed AP if they happened to be someone from work? Not because of wanting your DH back, but because you ante angry over disrupting your life and beautiful family? I just can’t get over the fact that I will have to share my kid for holidays and breaks, and have them go through this trauma. It sounds like a low road, but curious of you did it. Of course, there is the risk that your spouse will lose their job and the highly stellar reputation..

[Anonymous]

I exposed my AP’s wife for being a terrible mother and wife.

[Anonymous]

If it could in any way endanger the financial stream that flows to your children, I would not do this. If their relationship becomes public, which she probably wants, everyone will know. Just leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I exposed my AP’s wife for being a terrible mother and wife.

Huh? Are you insane?

[Anonymous]

OP, did you expose your husband as well?

[Anonymous]

As soon as I learned of my husband's workplace affair, I texted then called the AP's husband. He absolutely deserved to know of his wife's adultery and get tested for STD's. My husband and I went to their wedding several years ago, it was the least I could do.

I've also selectively told some of his co-workers. I'm sure he's posing it as a brand new relationship instead of the 6 year long, f**king in their office adulterous debauchery that it is.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t been through this but I think I probably would. For exactly the same reason. Sharing my kids would make me so sad and angry that I probably couldn’t help myself. The thought of a Christmas without them would make me do insane things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As soon as I learned of my husband's workplace affair, I texted then called the AP's husband. He absolutely deserved to know of his wife's adultery and get tested for STD's. My husband and I went to their wedding several years ago, it was the least I could do.

I've also selectively told some of his co-workers. I'm sure he's posing it as a brand new relationship instead of the 6 year long, f**king in their office adulterous debauchery that it is.

I would probably tell the AP’s husband but come on. It wasn’t the least you could do. It was vindictive, even though I admit I would do the same. You didn’t do a good dead.

[Anonymous]

No, and the relationship crashed and burned once it was no longer fun and illicit. I guess she was fun to f8uk but he didn't want her in real life. Now he is lonely and sad and his grown children have no respect for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it could in any way endanger the financial stream that flows to your children, I would not do this. If their relationship becomes public, which she probably wants, everyone will know. Just leave it alone.

This. I know it is hard. I'd be tempted, too. But you want your kids' dad to be (and remain) successful. It is in their (and your) best interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you exposed AP if they happened to be someone from work? Not because of wanting your DH back, but because you ante angry over disrupting your life and beautiful family? I just can’t get over the fact that I will have to share my kid for holidays and breaks, and have them go through this trauma. It sounds like a low road, but curious of you did it. Of course, there is the risk that your spouse will lose their job and the highly stellar reputation..

For one thing, you had an illusion, you never had this beautiful life and family, your husband is a cheater with a wandering eye and not even enough sense to not sh** where he eats. If they are cheating at work, most likely a lot of people already know and their reputations have already taken the hit. Just leave it alone and rebuild your life.

[Anonymous]

I exposed her to her husband.

[Anonymous]

This could backfire, so tread wisely. It happened in a hospital I worked in, doctor-subordinate affair. The doctor became enraged when his wife complained to management. He initiated an acrimonious divorce and moved to another workplace with his AP. No lasting consequences for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As soon as I learned of my husband's workplace affair, I texted then called the AP's husband. He absolutely deserved to know of his wife's adultery and get tested for STD's. My husband and I went to their wedding several years ago, it was the least I could do.

I've also selectively told some of his co-workers. I'm sure he's posing it as a brand new relationship instead of the 6 year long, f**king in their office adulterous debauchery that it is.

I would probably tell the AP’s husband but come on. It wasn’t the least you could do. It was vindictive, even though I admit I would do the same. You didn’t do a good dead.

You're wrong. Keeping secrets, lies and sins hidden is the wrong thing to do. Very sad that many people advocate for hiding adultery. Would you advocate for hiding a rape, incest, stealing, etc?
Morality and most religions require exposing adulterous affairs and ending it.

[Anonymous]

After it was all over and known about he dumped the AP (after dumping me, of course) and she told a mutual friend she was considering writing me a letter.
I told the mutual friend if I got a letter I'd find her, grab her by the hair and smash her face into my knee.
I never got the goddamn letter.