Your kids see and hear everything - and share with their friends

[Anonymous]

Who then share with their parents. Just FYI. My daughter came home and told me that so and so's parents are on the brink of divorce and sleep in separate beds every night. And another time came home and told me that her friend's mom tells her all the time that if her parents get divorced then it is little girls fault. Oh and they also sleep in separate rooms and Dad sleeps on the couch every night with a special pillow that he hides behind the couch.

[Anonymous]

Families can only "hide" so much from their kids. In your divorce examples, how do you suggest the parents keep this from their kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Families can only "hide" so much from their kids. In your divorce examples, how do you suggest the parents keep this from their kids?

+1
And stop eating it all up OP. You're gross.

[Anonymous]

Don't believe everything you hear about me and I promise to believe only half of what I hear about you.

Separate rooms to sleep ~ not uncommon. That could be as simple as getting a good night's sleep. And joking about divorce over snoring. Guess they shouldn't joke though.

[Anonymous]

This is not only for divorce; for you smokers who smoke around your children (especially in the car) - your children learn more by watching you and your unhealthy habits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't believe everything you hear about me and I promise to believe only half of what I hear about you.

When I was a teacher - the kindergarten teachers use to say that at open house.

Believe me, your child's teacher hear a lot about what goes on in your home!

[Anonymous]

People have real life problems. Perhaps focus on what you can control and teach your child not to repeat gossip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who then share with their parents. Just FYI. My daughter came home and told me that so and so's parents are on the brink of divorce and sleep in separate beds every night. And another time came home and told me that her friend's mom tells her all the time that if her parents get divorced then it is little girls fault. Oh and they also sleep in separate rooms and Dad sleeps on the couch every night with a special pillow that he hides behind the couch.

Are you new to Earth, OP? Everyone knows this.

[Anonymous]

You're gullible, aren't you, OP?

My parents have always slept in separate rooms because my father snores terribly. At 75, they're still together.

Maybe don't believe everything you hear, hmm?

Goodness.

[Anonymous]

I only have empathy for those families dealing with those issues. That sounds hard for everyone.

Though we all have to teach our kids that some information is not appropriate for just sharing idly with all your friends. I had to explain to my DD that it's not appropriate to tell other people about my health issues, when I discovered she was sharing details about an ongoing health concern with friends at school who were reporting it to their parents. I wasn't mortified, but I didn't love having that info shared like that. So I had to explain to her that it's not appropriate to share info about other people's health or bodies -- that's something people should get to decide themselves whether or not to share.

But I wasn't mad -- she didn't know. I also know she likely shared the info because my health problems were a source of stress for her -- she may have been seeking reassurance or trying to figure out if other kids' parents have health issues. Which I would also assume is why the kids whose parents are fighting or on the brink of divorce are doing -- seeking reassurance and validation about something that upsets them.

[Anonymous]

Some people I know wished their parents would divorce when they were kids. But their parents never did.

From genealogy research, I have run into situations where kids knew their parents argued over affairs then through DNA found evidence when they were very old (Not Parent Expected events).

I remember from my kid's first grade classroom that one kid burst out crying because his dad was in jail. We used to see that dad around the school. I have no idea what for. I wish I didn't know that.

Another kid, when the class was asked to write a paragraph story about their baby hood, wrote a story about how he almost died at birth and flatlined multiple times.

I think we all know that kids are aware and will talk about rough things. There is no solution for this.

[Anonymous]

If it’s coming from my kid, 80% of what comes out of his mouth is completely untrue. Believe it if you want but it’s highly likely that whatever is being said is not real life.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure your kids are reporting you and DH have a great sex life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who then share with their parents. Just FYI. My daughter came home and told me that so and so's parents are on the brink of divorce and sleep in separate beds every night. And another time came home and told me that her friend's mom tells her all the time that if her parents get divorced then it is little girls fault. Oh and they also sleep in separate rooms and Dad sleeps on the couch every night with a special pillow that he hides behind the couch.

Sounds like busybody moms raise busy body kids. Shocker

[Anonymous]

I have two kids and neither has ever come home discussing anyone's marital woes. The worst I've ever heard is that so and so's parents are divorced, and so and so takes a math enrichment class, neither of which are particularly interesting.