Not staying with family at thanksgiving
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Anonymous
| My parents live in a 3 bed 2 bath house and we have 8 relatives staying in the house over thanksgiving. Because I don’t want to sleep on the floor and share a bathroom with 6 of those people and want privacy, I booked a hotel & they’re mad because I’m not being a team player. I also have to work remotely Wednesday & Friday and need space. Am I being unreasonable? |
Anonymous
| Not unreasonable. |
Anonymous
| Not unreasonable, but I would lean into the work excuse so they don't feel as rejected. |
Anonymous
| You are an adult. Can’t you say sleeping on the floor is NOT for me and DH? |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
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Jeezus, your parents are ridiculous. You’re a grown woman. You don’t want to jostle for the bathroom or sleep on the floor. Why can’t they grasp that basic VERY REASONABLE fact?
If they’re upset, that’s their problem and they’ll get over it. Do not engage or waste any more energy on worrying about their feelings over this. |
Anonymous
| Perfectly reasonable. Agree with pushing the need to work remotely. Mention important zoom calls etc. |
Anonymous
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Nope. Good for you for staying in a hotel.
Exactly what we do. |
Anonymous
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This again???
Tell them it's a hotel or you're not coming at all, and that they're RUDE for insisting on making you uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
| No way would I share a bathroom |
Anonymous
| So what? Let them grumble. They're upset. And? So? |
Anonymous
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Op, you are entitled to a preference. And they don't have to like it. You don't need to explain anything to them. You don't need to give them any details. You don't need to convince them or change their minds.
Sometimes adults don't get what they want. What they want doesn't even need to be judged - unimportant if it's a reasonable want or not. You get to decide. You are entitled to act on a preference. |
Anonymous
| Nope! Not being unreasonable. I would hate that set up! |
Anonymous
| Hell no. Hotel is fine. Sleep on the floor? What?? |
Anonymous
| I'd never make an adult sleep on the floor. That's for kids and sleepovers. |