Can you have a good sex life but a bad marriage?

[Anonymous]

Is this possible?

[Anonymous]

Sure that's why a lot of people got married only to find it wasn't a good choice. Use birth control.

[Anonymous]

Yes. We were having passionate, adventurous sex the whole time my husband was having one night stands.

[Anonymous]

Not only possible, I'd say that it's probably not even uncommon. Some of the things that make a person an exciting sexual partner make them a terrible long-term partner and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We were having passionate, adventurous sex the whole time my husband was having one night stands.

Sounds just like my ex. Where are you located? 😄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this possible?

Yes, I did it for years. The secret was to sleep with people who were not my wife. Had a very robust sex life, in fact. The marriage was mid and then deteriorated. Apparently she didn't want to sleep with me but didn't want others sleeping with me, either.

Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Not for me.

[Anonymous]

I actually think you can if there is physical chemistry, and you are both on the same page about sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not only possible, I'd say that it's probably not even uncommon. Some of the things that make a person an exciting sexual partner make them a terrible long-term partner and vice versa.

This. The best sex of my life was with men who burned hot and made terrible partners.

Currently with a man who is a fantastic partner, more than I ever thought was possible, but sex is pretty vanilla. I try to spice it up but he’s just too calm and stable. We still have sex several times a week, and is satisfying, but not the same level of intensity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not only possible, I'd say that it's probably not even uncommon. Some of the things that make a person an exciting sexual partner make them a terrible long-term partner and vice versa.

This. The best sex of my life was with men who burned hot and made terrible partners.

Currently with a man who is a fantastic partner, more than I ever thought was possible, but sex is pretty vanilla. I try to spice it up but he’s just too calm and stable. We still have sex several times a week, and is satisfying, but not the same level of intensity.

"I know you love me, but you need to f**k me like you hate me!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not only possible, I'd say that it's probably not even uncommon. Some of the things that make a person an exciting sexual partner make them a terrible long-term partner and vice versa.

This. The best sex of my life was with men who burned hot and made terrible partners.

Currently with a man who is a fantastic partner, more than I ever thought was possible, but sex is pretty vanilla. I try to spice it up but he’s just too calm and stable. We still have sex several times a week, and is satisfying, but not the same level of intensity.

"I know you love me, but you need to f**k me like you hate me!"

Oh so true. I have found that a little hair pull and butt slap go a long way to scratching that itch.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

For me, the chemistry is always off the charts with the wrong types of men.

[Anonymous]

In our case no - if there are any issues with the marriage then the sex won't be good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me, the chemistry is always off the charts with the wrong types of men.

1000 times this. Why is this? The best sex of my life included an alcoholic and an artist who could barely pay the rent.