Boyfriend lied to me about his politics

[Anonymous]

This is a vent post. When I first met my boyfriend he came off as a pretty nice guy, very well read, open-minded and intelligent. He mentioned being a feminist in our early dating and espoused views about equality (this was all unprompted).

Now that we’ve settled into the relationship he has started trying to get me to listen to various podcasts he’s into. I don’t listen to podcasts and never really knew who these people were. Well after listening more they are saying some very anti-woman stuff, and my boyfriend has started complaining about how feminism and women working has ruined our society. He also has started saying super anti-Jewish stuff. Um WTF?! He is entitled to his opinions, but he clearly deceived me on his views.

I decided im done. But i’m pissed that he wasted my time.

[Anonymous]

I’m
Sorry

You dodged a bullet

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a modern conservative.

[Anonymous]

If you’re breaking things off, be very guarded with what you tell him. He sounds like the kind of guy who won’t take a breakup very well, and really wouldn’t take your reasoning very well. Be safe.

[Anonymous]

Zero possibility this is a real post. But a pro tip it's not what men say it's what they do

It's a new grift for men to act feminist there's even influencers in on the grift .


Also people change if you're old enough to date you're old enough to understand that concept.

Move on and next time save this nonsense for your journal.

[Anonymous]

People are not entitled to their anti-semitism opinions, or racist opinions, etc.

Maybe he lied or maybe he changed. Either way, I'd break up with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero possibility this is a real post. But a pro tip it's not what men say it's what they do

It's a new grift for men to act feminist there's even influencers in on the grift .


Also people change if you're old enough to date you're old enough to understand that concept.

Move on and next time save this nonsense for your journal.

This is seriously so stupid. Like there aren’t a bunch of women during the pandemic who found their male partners to be getting sucked down creepy rabbit holes. Are you not paying attention?

[Anonymous]

Bait and switch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero possibility this is a real post. But a pro tip it's not what men say it's what they do

It's a new grift for men to act feminist there's even influencers in on the grift .


Also people change if you're old enough to date you're old enough to understand that concept.

Move on and next time save this nonsense for your journal.

It sounds realistic to me.

[Anonymous]

End the relationship
Your political views don’t align.

[Anonymous]

Put him on the market for the women who can handle him. Complaining will not help yourself. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a modern conservative.

Yep, conservatives are obviously leading the anti-semitic attacks on campuses and elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Is he originally of a different culture? Some opinions are generational—and deep. I married a guy—and I was with him for 2O years. Some of the subtle anti-Jewish behaviors and opinions came out over time. It was deep rooted. It was historical. It was also pretty well hidden (and yes, with a ton of contradictions like jewish friends) but present. My MIL once made a contorted face once I mentioned taking my kids to the JCC. She held her face and then just stared at me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he originally of a different culture? Some opinions are generational—and deep. I married a guy—and I was with him for 2O years. Some of the subtle anti-Jewish behaviors and opinions came out over time. It was deep rooted. It was historical. It was also pretty well hidden (and yes, with a ton of contradictions like jewish friends) but present. My MIL once made a contorted face once I mentioned taking my kids to the JCC. She held her face and then just stared at me.

No he’s an American.

[Anonymous]

Then act, Op