Too much birthday $ from friend?

[Anonymous]

My 5th grade DS just had a birthday party. One of his friends brought a vard with a nice message and a $100 bill. This is way out of the norm of the average kid gift in our circles! His mom mainly speaks Spanish and not much English. Is this something we should address and/or try to return? Or send a very nice thank you and plan to reciprocate similarly in the future? Thanks

[Anonymous]

If it were me I would like to try to return it and say it is too much. But that could also be rude, so...

[Anonymous]

Send a very nice thank you note and reciprocate in a non-money way in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it were me I would like to try to return it and say it is too much. But that could also be rude, so...

That would be very rude and embarrass them.

[Anonymous]

Do you know what the parents do for a living? It really seems like it was a mistake

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the mom filled out the card? Is it possible the mom told the kid to go in her purse and get a $20 and he saw $100 and decided to put that in?

I'd probably just invite that boy for a fancier playdate to spend the money on them - going to go-kart or whatever.

[Anonymous]

You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

You people are racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

You people are racist.

Serious question from OP: How would you handle this if it were a native English speaking friend/family? I'd still be surprised and unsure what's appropriate. I just added the language aspect in case there's a cultural difference involving higher spending on kids' gifts that I should be aware of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

You people are racist.

I only mentioned Google translate because OP made it sound like there might be a language barrier to having this discussion, but I would say exactly the same thing to any parent of any race in this situation because no one has ever given my kids anywhere close to that amount of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

Don’t use Google translate! She has a kid who is likely bilingual and can translate jeez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

You people are racist.

Serious question from OP: How would you handle this if it were a native English speaking friend/family? I'd still be surprised and unsure what's appropriate. I just added the language aspect in case there's a cultural difference involving higher spending on kids' gifts that I should be aware of.

Thank you note, period. You are overthinking this and will hurt their feelings if you do not accept it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

This. Don't use Google translate, but do say you were concerned that her son put the wrong amount in the card.

I would absolutely do this for a native English speaker too, but alas, I have a kid with ADHD. I can easily see this play out with my own kid grabbing money quickly and not paying much attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

You people are racist.

Serious question from OP: How would you handle this if it were a native English speaking friend/family? I'd still be surprised and unsure what's appropriate. I just added the language aspect in case there's a cultural difference involving higher spending on kids' gifts that I should be aware of.

Thank you note, period. You are overthinking this and will hurt their feelings if you do not accept it.

Or it could be their grocery money for the week. Op needs to say the gift was very generous, she's aappreciative but wants to make sure the gift wasn't a mistake by the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should tell her you think her son may have accidentally put the wrong bill in your son’s card because $100 is an unusually high dollar amount to give a classmate. Use Google translate.

You people are racist.

Serious question from OP: How would you handle this if it were a native English speaking friend/family? I'd still be surprised and unsure what's appropriate. I just added the language aspect in case there's a cultural difference involving higher spending on kids' gifts that I should be aware of.

Thank you note, period. You are overthinking this and will hurt their feelings if you do not accept it.

Or it could be their grocery money for the week. Op needs to say the gift was very generous, she's aappreciative but wants to make sure the gift wasn't a mistake by the kid.

Why are you assuming the kid came up with that amount? You don't think they can tell the difference between a 20 and a 100 dollar bill? So you will saying they or their kid is ignorant? Just stop.