Do I tell his GF?

[Anonymous]

A few months ago, I dated a guy very briefly. He started off nice, but started acting sketchy, then it became pretty clear he had an angry/violent streak (like yelling at a cashier then finding her on FB to send her threatening DMs). I broke things off immediately when this side of him came out. We had only dated for about 6 weeks and slept together maybe 3 times.

Last night I got a text from a woman that said she had found my number in his phone, and asking if I knew him, because she was his girlfriend of 6 years and suspected he was cheating on her.

Normally I would tell the truth, but given this guy’s anger issues, I don’t want to get dragged into anything. I’m debating between either blocking her number or making up some excuse like, I dunno, I’m a realtor and just talked to him about a house. Although I guess that’s stupid because if he gave her another excuse, it won’t line up.

Normally I’m a girl’s girl and would let her know her BF was seeing me but I do worry this guy would show up at my house angry.

WWYD? Just block her?

[Anonymous]

Block her.

You have no idea who this person is.

[Anonymous]

Block - Ignor
Give that no energy …..Move on w your life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Block her.

You have no idea who this person is.

The correct action.

[Anonymous]

You could write back and say:

"I do not recognize your name. I am no longer in contact with (guy). Please respect my privacy."

[Anonymous]

I think l would tell her you dated him for 6 weeks x months ago. You were the one who broke it off. You didn’t know he had a girlfriend.

All true facts. Why not help her with information?

[Anonymous]

Tell the truth, tell her exact dates as near as you can, and explain the reason why you left and your fear that he's a violent person. Obviously note that you were not aware he had another girlfriend! Legally, you owe her nothing, but morally, you have a duty of care.

[Anonymous]

I would worry that he might take this out on her. So I don't know what I would do in your situation, but I'm leaning towards what 19:06 said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think l would tell her you dated him for 6 weeks x months ago. You were the one who broke it off. You didn’t know he had a girlfriend.

All true facts. Why not help her with information?

BC it never ends .. Then things gets weird.
Who wants to be a part of or responsible for that ?

[Anonymous]

Just ignore and block.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Block her.

You have no idea who this person is.

THIS
Your responsibility is to protect yourself. You don’t know who that woman is. She could be lying. She could be crazy and if you confirm you had a relationship with him, she could come after you.

Rule 1: Don’t respond to strangers’ messages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think l would tell her you dated him for 6 weeks x months ago. You were the one who broke it off. You didn’t know he had a girlfriend.

All true facts. Why not help her with information?

Wrong. That’s what you do when you know the other woman. You don’t engage with strangers like that.

[Anonymous]

For the people who are wary of responding to strangers, I think this is a situation where you should respond. Moral rectitude outweighs the risk. But if you're frightened, you can investigate her phone number and see whether the person it's attached to could plausibly be that man's girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell the truth, tell her exact dates as near as you can, and explain the reason why you left and your fear that he's a violent person. Obviously note that you were not aware he had another girlfriend! Legally, you owe her nothing, but morally, you have a duty of care.

Wrong. How do you know she is the GF? How do you know this isn’t a scammer?

Do you really share all the details of your life with a random stranger who messages you?

[Anonymous]

Or the man himself. Or his buddy.