Do you and DH / DW ever yell at each other?

[Anonymous]

Over what?

[Anonymous]

We don't yell. Ever.

We do have disagreements over things, usually minor annoyances or miscommunications. We've been married since 2003 and have two kids.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

No, never

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

We've been married for 35 years and have raised 2 kids. We do yell sometimes. I really couldn't say exactly over what, it's varied. Sometimes when we argue, we speak loudly.

"Yelling" has different meanings to different people--both in what is defined as "yelling" and in how troubling people find it. I'm not bothered by raised voices at all, although I don't think arguing with raised voices in public is appropriate. OTOH, I don't like name calling in public or in private. That almost never happens in my marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been married for 35 years and have raised 2 kids. We do yell sometimes. I really couldn't say exactly over what, it's varied. Sometimes when we argue, we speak loudly.

"Yelling" has different meanings to different people--both in what is defined as "yelling" and in how troubling people find it. I'm not bothered by raised voices at all, although I don't think arguing with raised voices in public is appropriate. OTOH, I don't like name calling in public or in private. That almost never happens in my marriage.

So, you sometimes name call in public?

[Anonymous]

No. I don't think I have ever yelled at anyone in my life other than a small child running into danger.

I don't recall ever hearing my parents yell either.

We just don't yell and when I hear people yell, I find it very aggressive and extreme.

[Anonymous]

Sure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I don't think I have ever yelled at anyone in my life other than a small child running into danger.

I don't recall ever hearing my parents yell either.

We just don't yell and when I hear people yell, I find it very aggressive and extreme.

Same, it upsets me immensely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, never

Same

[Anonymous]

You'd get two different answers from each of us. We have very different definitions -- the root of which lies in our own respective parents' relationships -- of what constitutes "yelling" or a "fight."

For my DW, any expression of frustration is an argument, and any added decibel is yelling. For me, based on my parents, fists would have to come out to make something a fight.

[Anonymous]

we've been together 40+ years and have never yelled at each other for anything. nothing in life is worth damaging your relationship.