Where are the best places to approach women in public?

[Anonymous]

If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.

[Anonymous]

Please don't.

[Anonymous]

Please do! Just don’t look hungry or weird.

[Anonymous]

While taking a recreation class or otherwise engaging in an activity at the same time - so you have a mutual interest right from the start.

[Anonymous]

A place where there are lots of other people around. Women never know if a man approaching them is a creepy weirdo or is trying to sell them something.

Not when she is busy trying to do something else.

[Anonymous]

If I want to be approached, I'll go to a cozy pub and get an appetizer/drink alone at the bar.

[Anonymous]

If you have to ask, you don't have the social skills to do this successfully.

[Anonymous]

I second the "please do!" as long as it's not creepy. Places as are vast as "public" - the gym, the grocery store, the metro, on a walk. Just strike up a neutral conversation.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I second the "please do!" as long as it's not creepy. Places as are vast as "public" - the gym, the grocery store, the metro, on a walk. Just strike up a neutral conversation.

But there has to be other people around. Not a public place like a hiking trail where she's isolated. A man approaching a woman in an isolated setting is already red flagged as having poor judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I second the "please do!" as long as it's not creepy. Places as are vast as "public" - the gym, the grocery store, the metro, on a walk. Just strike up a neutral conversation.

No please don’t. Bad advice. Most women will consider It harassment.
There is only a 5% chance that the woman you approach might be interested.

[Anonymous]

Is there some reason why the women you already know are uninterested in you?

[Anonymous]

OP, DCUM is not the best place to ask. The majority of DCUM users are middle-aged women who are frustrated in life, understandably, because they are juggling parenthood and marriage and careers.

The only difference between "looking like a creep" and "being interesting and approachable" is going to be subjective and will depend on the woman in question. If you're handsome and have good social skills, you will face a lot less judgement, surprise, surprise! Your intent and good character don't actually matter in those few minutes, even though all these women think they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While taking a recreation class or otherwise engaging in an activity at the same time - so you have a mutual interest right from the start.

Yes, in a setting of mutual interest. So that you have something in common to start with. And so that she can find out from mutual acquaintances what kind of reputation you have and whether you are a safe person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, DCUM is not the best place to ask. The majority of DCUM users are middle-aged women who are frustrated in life, understandably, because they are juggling parenthood and marriage and careers.

The only difference between "looking like a creep" and "being interesting and approachable" is going to be subjective and will depend on the woman in question. If you're handsome and have good social skills, you will face a lot less judgement, surprise, surprise! Your intent and good character don't actually matter in those few minutes, even though all these women think they do.

People with good social skills refrain from approaching others in a creepy manner. That's why.