What’s worst divorced or crappy marriage?

[Anonymous]

Chime in with your thoughts and experience.

[Anonymous]

crappy marriage 1000%

[Anonymous]

Consider your children first.

[Anonymous]

Crappy marriage. I’m divorced and life is soooo much better.

[Anonymous]

If there are kids and its not abusive, i think divorce is worse. I'm 50% poorer and have 50% custody. Lose-lose

[Anonymous]

Crappy marriage. All of the joy and lightness and fun and meaning in life absolutely flooded back in when he moved out a year ago and has not disapated in the slightest! I cannot even believe I lived that way looking back.

[Anonymous]

May depend if you are male or female

[Anonymous]

As an adult who was once a child of parents with a bad marriage, I always wished they would just get divorced. It's really hard on children to be in this environment, OP.

[Anonymous]

My parents had a bad marriage, divorced, and are now each in a new bad marriage. I wouldn't say that's a win for them, and it's way worse for me logistically.

Wherever you go, there you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chime in with your thoughts and experience.

Divorced and coparenting with a high income narcissist and abuser is actually worse than being married to the same one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chime in with your thoughts and experience.

Divorced and coparenting with a high income narcissist and abuser is actually worse than being married to the same one.

Oof. I can see that. (NP) I'm sorry. Torture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As an adult who was once a child of parents with a bad marriage, I always wished they would just get divorced. It's really hard on children to be in this environment, OP.

My DH thought his parents had a bad marriage and wanted them to divorce. They did not feel the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

May depend if you are male or female

Nah, it depends if you're independently wealthy. If so, crappy marriage is far worse. If you're poor, divorced is worse because you halve your resources.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an adult who was once a child of parents with a bad marriage, I always wished they would just get divorced. It's really hard on children to be in this environment, OP.

My DH thought his parents had a bad marriage and wanted them to divorce. They did not feel the same.

Same.

My parents were terrible together and because of that the kids suffered emotional neglect. No one had enough in their tank to give us the love or emotional support we needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If there are kids and its not abusive, i think divorce is worse. I'm 50% poorer and have 50% custody. Lose-lose

Yes, if you're poor than divorce is worse. This is exactly why women shouldn't give up their careers.