We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.
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Anonymous
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DCUM is going to roast me for this absolutely.
DS is on day 4 of a raging stomach virus. He's had a fever, vomiting, diarrhea, and a stuffy nose. It started Tuesday night. I came down with some version of it yesterday and have been feeling off, but just having diarrhea. I've been caring for DS and have been doing all the laundry, sanitizing, and cleaning. I am beyond exhausted and not feeling well. DS has had diarrhea 12+ times today and pooped his pants 7 times. To top if off, DH was laid off today. He's in a blue-collar industry. We had some unexpected expenses this month and have had to reschedule a planned vacation. I'm very upset about all of it. DH's Dad passed away 1 year ago and there is an overnight, memorial camping trip happening with his family. I asked DH if it was wise to go on the trip, given that he had been exposed to a stomach flu all week, and he said he had to go. I am just so tired. I wish he weren't going; I don't have anyone else to help. I know DCUM will tell me that DH spending time with his family to remember his late father is important, and I agree. I'm just so bummed about a cancelled vacation, lay off, and parenting solo for the next 24-48 hours while being sick myself. I know, I know I should suck it up. It's just been a very rough week, and nothing compared to losing a parent. |
Anonymous
This is hard for all of you. You are doing fine. It's part of life. You have to take the bitter with the sweet. |
Anonymous
| I am sorry you are going through this all OP. I actually think he shouldn't go, but sadly it has to be his decision. Does he really want to expose his family to this? Even if he doesn't get sick depending on the nature of this virus, he could be a carrier. Also, ideally he should be there to care-give for all of you now that you maybe getting sick too. So basically if he stayed home it would be win-win-protect the health of those on the trip and take care of you all. I hope he figures this all out because as I said, it should be his decision. |
Anonymous
| He shouldn't go, but not because you need help -- he shouldn't go because no one wants a stomach bug. I'm sorry everything is so hard right now. |
Anonymous
| OP here - thank you, 3 PPs for being kind. I appreciate it. I wish he would consider the risk of him contracting it or bringing germs with him. His mother is in a skilled nursing facility right now and is very medically fragile. The nursing facility is allowing her to go on the overnight, but a stomach virus could likely put her in the hospital. |
Anonymous
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He shouldn't go because he's very likely to end up getting the stomach bug while he's there. And not only will he be exposing people to the germs, but from the sound of this, it's a multi day bug and he won't be able to travel with it. Diarrhea 12 times in a day? He's going to be renting a hotel until it passes. And if finances are already concerning....thats a stupid waste of money.
You'll be fine alone. It'll suck but you just do the bare minimum. It sounds like your DS is quite little if he had that many accidents? Just do diapers for the time being so it cuts down on laundry. |
Anonymous
He's six. The diarrhea is so watery that it feels like he needs to "pass gas" but it's not gas. He's sharting constantly. And I am going to put him in goodnites tonight because I had to strip his bed this morning. |
Anonymous
| Would he counting for part of it and keeping himself away from the medically fragile people? Would ask the pediatrician or doctor who cares for his mom if this worries them and what would they recommend? They both go or only one goes? Also suggest he let's everyone there know that this bug is going to your household and he thinks he is not insane is it okay for him to attend and if so under what conditions. Think a lot of people world day please don't share this raging bug. |
Anonymous
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No advice, OP… just support.
I’m sorry things are so rough right now. This sounds like a lot to handle at once. I hope you get a moment to yourself to rejuvenate. |
Anonymous
| If DH goes he should take as much immodium with him as he can. He should mask, wash hands a lot. Tell everyone he is exposed and away away from them. Eat separately. He might kill his mom otherwise. |
Anonymous
This, my husband would stay home to take care of us and not expose others. |
Anonymous
+1. No question. |
Anonymous
OP here. I wish he were this type of husband, but he's not. He doesn't understand that you can be an asymptomatic carrier or that COVID can take 14 days to show symptoms. He thinks, "If I'm not sick, no one else is getting sick." His Dad had a heavy influence on him and I'm sure he feels a strong sense of obligation + FOMO. |
Anonymous
| I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s hard for each of you. How far away is the camping trip? Could he go for a few hours, masking and distancing, to participate, but also minimize exposure, and then return home? |
Anonymous
It’s 2.5 hours one way with limited to no cell service. I asked him to send a text describing the symptoms and that DS is still have diarrhea. He’s having FOMO, feels like he has to be there for his Dad and just doesn’t see the risk in potentially infecting 20+ other people. I personally think it’s COVID or flu, my son says he can’t smell. I have a runny nose, sore throat and diarrhea. I’ve never had respiratory symptoms with a stomach bug nor has my son, but still! It’s a brutal strain of whatever we caught. My son’s temp is still 99-99.5 and he normally runs cold. |