Friend is cheating on apparently villainous wife

[Anonymous]

My friend has been complaining about his wife over the past few months. Saying that she is crazy and unstable and that she runs him out of the house. He feels emotionally abused. We have all known her for the past 5 years. She seems friendly and not at all like she’d be dominating him behind the scenes. He is now cheating on her with a mutual friend and other women saying she broke him down.

How much of his actions are justifiable? How much of what he says is true?

[Anonymous]

You get to that point and you’ve had enough

[Anonymous]

Who cares?
If they’re that annoyed with each other they should part ways...

[Anonymous]

He’s lying. It’s classic justification.

ALL cheaters blame their spouses and paint themselves as the good ones in public.

[Anonymous]

Yeah right. He could divorce.

[Anonymous]

“A mutual friend”. That “friend” is a lowlife too.

[Anonymous]

All wives of all cheaters are "crazy." All ex-girlfriends and ex-wives are "crazy." If you've ever been one of those, do you think you're crazy? Or do you think he's telling stories to justify what he's doing?

[Anonymous]

I mean…cheating is never the OK thing to do. If you want to be someone else, at minimum, publicly declare that you are separated and move to a separate residence.

As for the story about his wife- who knows.

My DH would probably paint me as the same currently. He has developed a serious drinking problem and thinks I am “being controlling and criticizing him” due to my displeasure over the drinking and all that comes with it. So…yes the marriage isn’t good (and I am being “critical”) but there is a lot more to it.

And a lot of cheaters will try to paint the spouse as terrible, to justify the cheating in their minds.

As a friend, I’d probably refuse to be any part of it. Change the subject if it comes up (assuming you aren’t going to talk to him about it). Who knows where the whole thing with lead eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend has been complaining about his wife over the past few months. Saying that she is crazy and unstable and that she runs him out of the house. He feels emotionally abused. We have all known her for the past 5 years. She seems friendly and not at all like she’d be dominating him behind the scenes. He is now cheating on her with a mutual friend and other women saying she broke him down.

How much of his actions are justifiable? How much of what he says is true?

What's it to you? MYOB.

You will never know the truth 100%, so why even think about it? MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Even if it’s 100% true, it’s 0% justified. Same result if you reverse genders.

[Anonymous]

This happened to a couple we knew, and we became sympathetic to him even though it seemed so unlikely, and it turned out the guy had a brain tumor.

[Anonymous]

Poor baby. I guess he is just too beaten down to file for divorce so he has to stick his pee pee into another woman to get courage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor baby. I guess he is just too beaten down to file for divorce so he has to stick his pee pee into another woman to get courage.

And a friend in the group. These people are messy and trashy I'd distance myself

[Anonymous]

Typical of a cheater. Drop him as a friend and tell her.

[Anonymous]

My friend just did this to my other friend. I’ll never talk to him again and no story or spin of his will convince me that he’s anything less than the lowest form of life.