Bumble 101 or should I be on Hinge?

[Anonymous]

Thanks for your help with my profile photos questions. I dipped my toe into Bumble a few days ago. The last time I was dated I had an answering machine. First reaction: my best friend has a lot of patience and I have not laughed so hard in a long time. Not laughing at men but at myself, fwiw.

I've swiped left when I meant to swipe right. I've swiped right when I definitely meant to swipe left. I have a couple of causal chats going. World's slowest ping pong matches, tbh. If someone doesn't respond with a question I let it fizzle. But I don't know how this is really supposed to work.

I'm just looking to date, not looking for LTR at the moment. I'm not used to making the first move but I also know that's what Bumble was designed for. If you use it do you respond to one of their prompt questions or what? I have very dry humor which I know people don't always get. Ignore the prompt if I don't like it and then what? Very brief first message?

Was never so grateful for dinner with a bunch of girlfriends this weekend. In my dream world I'll match with some guys who make me laugh like that. My girlfriends are the best, save for the sex thing....😳

Is Hinge better for a Bumbling idiot new to apps?

[Anonymous]

You see all the same people on all the apps.

[Anonymous]

Are you really incapable of meeting people in real life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you really incapable of meeting people in real life?

I meet lots of people IRL but I don't drink or go to bars. Currently have a strong mutual connection with someone I met organically but I don't want to pursue that because he's quite a bit younger and I think it is not fair to him. Have actually met his family and friends. I'd like to date casually right now. Apps seem to be pretty much everyone's default.

[Anonymous]

Bumble and Hinge have very similar groups of people on them and the conversation dynamics are also similar. The difference is that women don't have to say "Hi" first on Hinge. Hinge also has a little more text in the bios and some people include short voice recordings.

You'll probably get some dates on Bumble and maybe you'll enjoy meeting some of the guys.

[Anonymous]

I feel like Hinge is more popular now, but I would use both. When I was online dating, I used both Bumble and The League. Hinge could be nice because it allows you to be pursued, and you get to be a bit more passive.

[Anonymous]

SDC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SDC

what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for your help with my profile photos questions. I dipped my toe into Bumble a few days ago. The last time I was dated I had an answering machine. First reaction: my best friend has a lot of patience and I have not laughed so hard in a long time. Not laughing at men but at myself, fwiw.

I've swiped left when I meant to swipe right. I've swiped right when I definitely meant to swipe left. I have a couple of causal chats going. World's slowest ping pong matches, tbh. If someone doesn't respond with a question I let it fizzle. But I don't know how this is really supposed to work.

I'm just looking to date, not looking for LTR at the moment. I'm not used to making the first move but I also know that's what Bumble was designed for. If you use it do you respond to one of their prompt questions or what? I have very dry humor which I know people don't always get. Ignore the prompt if I don't like it and then what? Very brief first message?

Was never so grateful for dinner with a bunch of girlfriends this weekend. In my dream world I'll match with some guys who make me laugh like that. My girlfriends are the best, save for the sex thing....😳

Is Hinge better for a Bumbling idiot new to apps?

Try them all. They are mostly all owned by the same corporation, who wants to keep people on the apps as long as possible, swiping as much as possible, to make more ad revenues.

Match is the largest with most users.
POF is probably next largest.
Tinder might be up there in user numbers, but harder to see anyone, 100% swipe app.
Also some pay sites like EHarmony, ChristianMingle, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you really incapable of meeting people in real life?

Most people under 50 are very afraid of being approached in public now. It's weird.

Watch them with their phones, acting like they have something important to do on their phone. It's their security blanket, and it's making everyone into shy, scared of the world, nerdy introverts.

[Anonymous]

Its all the same people.

If you dont meet in person within a week of chatting online, it will never happen.

First meeting should be coffee/drinks, dont lock in for a whole meal event until youve met in real life and establiahed interest in a second date.

Have low expectations.

Assume they are seeing other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its all the same people.

If you dont meet in person within a week of chatting online, it will never happen.

First meeting should be coffee/drinks, dont lock in for a whole meal event until youve met in real life and establiahed interest in a second date.

Have low expectations.

Assume they are seeing other women.

Ridiculous. Like there aren't new people constantly joining the app.

Like saying if you don't get a bite the first 5 min of fishing in the ocean, you will never get a bite. Fish move around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you really incapable of meeting people in real life?

This type of response says you have been married for at least 30 years and have no idea how adult dating happens in the 21st century. Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for your help with my profile photos questions. I dipped my toe into Bumble a few days ago. The last time I was dated I had an answering machine. First reaction: my best friend has a lot of patience and I have not laughed so hard in a long time. Not laughing at men but at myself, fwiw.

I've swiped left when I meant to swipe right. I've swiped right when I definitely meant to swipe left. I have a couple of causal chats going. World's slowest ping pong matches, tbh. If someone doesn't respond with a question I let it fizzle. But I don't know how this is really supposed to work.

I'm just looking to date, not looking for LTR at the moment. I'm not used to making the first move but I also know that's what Bumble was designed for. If you use it do you respond to one of their prompt questions or what? I have very dry humor which I know people don't always get. Ignore the prompt if I don't like it and then what? Very brief first message?

Was never so grateful for dinner with a bunch of girlfriends this weekend. In my dream world I'll match with some guys who make me laugh like that. My girlfriends are the best, save for the sex thing....😳

Is Hinge better for a Bumbling idiot new to apps?

How did you figure out the pictures? I was one that gave advice.

Also, I have found Hinge to be the better app, fwiw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for your help with my profile photos questions. I dipped my toe into Bumble a few days ago. The last time I was dated I had an answering machine. First reaction: my best friend has a lot of patience and I have not laughed so hard in a long time. Not laughing at men but at myself, fwiw.

I've swiped left when I meant to swipe right. I've swiped right when I definitely meant to swipe left. I have a couple of causal chats going. World's slowest ping pong matches, tbh. If someone doesn't respond with a question I let it fizzle. But I don't know how this is really supposed to work.

I'm just looking to date, not looking for LTR at the moment. I'm not used to making the first move but I also know that's what Bumble was designed for. If you use it do you respond to one of their prompt questions or what? I have very dry humor which I know people don't always get. Ignore the prompt if I don't like it and then what? Very brief first message?

Was never so grateful for dinner with a bunch of girlfriends this weekend. In my dream world I'll match with some guys who make me laugh like that. My girlfriends are the best, save for the sex thing....😳

Is Hinge better for a Bumbling idiot new to apps?

How did you figure out the pictures? I was one that gave advice.

Also, I have found Hinge to be the better app, fwiw.

Thanks for your help! Friends took some good recent photos. I sent them to a younger friend who is active on the apps and she told me which ones to use. I *am* really glad I'm not looking for a serious relationship. Chatting with a couple of men. Already nixed one who quickly gave off psychopath vibes. Too bad. Very handsome. But definitely off.