Phone access

[Anonymous]

I was wondering how common it is for spouses to share phone and or email passwords? How about location sharing on phones? Is this typical, or strange?

[Anonymous]

Everyone in our family (2 parents, 2 teens) knows everyone else's phone passwords. It's not a big deal, sometimes we grab each other's phone to do directions, take a photo, whatever. Obviously teens are more protective of phones, but we make it a rule that if we pay for it, we know the password. They are old enough now (over 16) that we don't really check anything.

We all share locations on find my phone, but I don't think any of us use it.

DH & I share a password manager software that stores all of our passwords (email, health portals, whatever).

Maybe we are not the norm, but I think it would be really weird if my DH or I wouldn't give each other the password to something. That said, we trust each other - I don't think I've ever checked his texts, unless he asks me to send a text to his family when he's driving or something. And I doubt he's checked mine, who cares.

[Anonymous]

DH and I have free access to each other's phones. It was just something that naturally occured back when we were dating. He'd have me check his phone for something or I would use his phone to look something up because I wouldn't have mine and vice versa. And that's continued into our marriage of 15 years. I've never looked through his phone without him knowing. Doubt he has mine.

We both have location on, but we never use it.

[Anonymous]

What’s the password manager software that you can share access different people’s accounts? That sounds handy.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I share passwords. He has an Apple phone and I have an Android so no location following.

[Anonymous]

No location sharing and yes we have each other's passwords.

Zero use for either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone in our family (2 parents, 2 teens) knows everyone else's phone passwords. It's not a big deal, sometimes we grab each other's phone to do directions, take a photo, whatever. Obviously teens are more protective of phones, but we make it a rule that if we pay for it, we know the password. They are old enough now (over 16) that we don't really check anything.

We all share locations on find my phone, but I don't think any of us use it.

DH & I share a password manager software that stores all of our passwords (email, health portals, whatever).

Maybe we are not the norm, but I think it would be really weird if my DH or I wouldn't give each other the password to something. That said, we trust each other - I don't think I've ever checked his texts, unless he asks me to send a text to his family when he's driving or something. And I doubt he's checked mine, who cares.

You know your kids’ passwords? DUH. Who doesn’t? Sharing with spouse other passwords beyond phone? Double DUH. You don’t “think” you ever checked his texts? Sounds like you have a don’t want to admit it.

[Anonymous]

My issue with the question and the responses is that folks seem to be presuming that you share access to each other’s phones to make sure they’re not cheating on you. That’s why people start talking about location services, etc.

If you truly trust your partner, though, the FBI you will allow him or her to have a modicum of privacy. You wouldn’t have to have access to their phones. And, be serious, if your spouse wants to cheat, and you have access to their phone, they will find another way.

[Anonymous]

I have been told my spouses password but don’t know it off the top of my head. She knows mine.
We have the Life360 app mainly for our 13yo but occasionally we use it too.
No issues.

[Anonymous]

Related question: why must you have your partner's phone password if, as so many of you have said, it's "no big deal" or you never look? Is it just to control your spouse? Send I message to him/her? "I would if I could, so stay in line?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was wondering how common it is for spouses to share phone and or email passwords? How about location sharing on phones? Is this typical, or strange?

The dw and I have always used the same phone passcode. While my location sharing is on I’ve turned off life 360. She gets too obsessive and watches it like a TV. I’ve literally gotten phone calls before that go like this:

Her: WHAT are you DOING? You’ve been sitting in the same place for 5 MINUTES.

Me: Uh, I’m at a traffic light.

I think being able to see our son and I at every turn was just too much.

[Anonymous]

In a healthy relationship, it’s normal to share passwords etc
Unhealthy, not normal

My teens like location sharing so we can help each other out if needed

[Anonymous]

DH and I know each other's passwords.

DCs are 17 and 21, and we all share locations for safety reasons with the understanding that we aren't going to be stalker-y about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a healthy relationship, it’s normal to share passwords etc
Unhealthy, not normal

My teens like location sharing so we can help each other out if needed

Can we stop with the teen thing? It's a totally different dynamic and not what the OP is asking.

[Anonymous]

Nope, we don’t share passwords or have access to each others phones. There is no need for DH to invade my privacy by having access to my phone or email.