Social Etiquette Q
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Anonymous
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Our 8 yo DS has taken to thinking he can pee outside if needs to and seems to prefer trying to do that on the tire of our car. I have been puzzled about why that is the case. I have since learned that DW told him that's an ok thing to do if he needs to go. Now, I would not care in the event of a true emergency or if he were in an area with few people around. However, this is now happening in very busy with a lot of car and foot traffic. A couple of weeks ago, I had to spend time telling DS we needed to go into a store instead of doing that outside on one of the busiest streets in our area.
After I learned more about where this is coming from, I tried to reset expectations and also raised it with DW. A big fight ensued. I have no idea why. Am I really off base in thinking an 8 yo should be told this isn't appropriate except in limited circumstances? |
Anonymous
| I cannot believe your wife told him it was okay to pee on a car tire. Wtf? Why would you pee on personal property? And why pee outdoors when you have access to a real bathroom? Men can get charged with indecent exposure doing this, so it should definitely be discouraged unless he’s in the middle of the woods, with no toilet access, and even then, you go behind a tree, out of the sight of others. |
Anonymous
I’ve told my son to do this. We were driving. It was night. Younger siblings were sleeping in the car. I didn’t want him to go off into the woods or even into a gas station alone, and I didn’t want to wake up the whole gang, so we pulled off an exit in a rural area and he peed by the side of the road. I didn’t tell him to pee on the tire of the car, but I can see why you might. Explain to your son that you don’t do this if people can see you, OP. |
Anonymous
Is this for real?? Did your wife specifically say peeing on the tires is ok? Or that just peeing in the yard is ok? |
Anonymous
| Was your wife raised in like a ... a world where people walk barefoot into gas stations? And you socialize at the Walmart? She needs to level up. Your son needs to be told he will have to wash the entire car if you catch him doing that again (it'll only be fun the first time). |
Anonymous
| I don't even let my dog pee on cars. Or trash cans, or mailboxes or flowers. Come on OP. |
Anonymous
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Is she always like this, OP? You might need to become the primary caregiver to your kids. That's some interesting parenting she's doing 
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Anonymous
"Leave Brittney alone!" 
Do any places still have signs "no shirt, no shoes, no service"? Haven't thought about those signs in years now. |
Anonymous
| Why on a tire? |
Anonymous
Territory marking is serious business! |
Anonymous
| Much more age appropriate for him to be peeing outside than peeing in a diaper. |
Anonymous
| Whoa, your wife is white trash. |
Anonymous
| Definitely not common or appropriate in most circumstances. It reminds me of 2 boys I knew growing up (probably around late ES/early MS) who I never liked hanging out with. They played roughly, constantly used bad language, were always shirtless, and would openly pee up against a tree in full view of the street. And this wasn’t some rural area; we lived in a nice suburban neighborhood in FL (3k sqft Mediterranean style homes with pools, about 15-20 min from airport and downtown). |
Anonymous
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Your wife is the issue. Urinating outside and/or on the family car tire is disgusting. You and your wife need to talk. |