Neighbor yelled at my kid and sent him home.
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Anonymous
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I live in a cul-de-sac in a neighborhood with plenty of families. DS was walking from Neighbor A to Neighbor B's house. Neighbor B had hosted the kids for lunch earlier in the day before they went to Neighbor A's house afterwards to play with bubbles. She invited the kids to come back to her house to jump on the trampoline in her backyard.
Neighbor B texted me to say she had asked DS, her son, and another neighbor kid to wait for her to go into the backyard. They did not wait and went through her side gate, started jumping on the trampoline, and her dog ran out of the yard. She raised her voice and (I heard it from my house) said "BOYS, TIME TO GO HOME. If you don't listen, you can't play." DS came home crying. It sounded a bit harsh at the time to not let them play at all for the rest of the day, and especially to yell like that at three young kids. She is now saying her son and DS can play again tomorrow afternoon, but not for the rest of the day. WWYD? Is this overly reactive? |
Anonymous
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At least she's very clear. The kids did not comply, so they get a punishment. They are welcome if they comply with house rules.
Tell your kid: "I'm sorry she yelled and you were scared, but next time you'll follow her rules, right?" If she turns out to be a drill sergeant, then perhaps the kids won't want to play at her house anymore. Natural consequences. |
Anonymous
| Yeah the dog got out because the kids did not mind. End of play date. |
Anonymous
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Totally reasonable and a good lesson for your kid. I would be glad she cared enough to help them learn.
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Anonymous
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The kids disobeyed her and let her dog escape. So they lost the privilege of the trampoline for an afternoon. Sounds like natural consequences for me. It doesn't sound like she was particularly mean in what she yelled.
If the kids are young enough that they cry when someone raises their voice, then yes, I get not wanting them using a trampoline unsupervised. She probably doesn't want to set a precedent of kids going in their yard without an adult around and using the trampoline. |
Anonymous
| Your kid needs to get a thicker skin. |
Anonymous
| I would’ve done the same thing. If only everyone issued consequences like this from the beginning, we wouldn’t have so many poorly behaved kids and adults. Why are you questioning this? |
Anonymous
| Team neighbor. |
Anonymous
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Seriously, they didn't listen and it sounds like she considers it a safety issue, with both the trampoline and the dog escaping. Your DS should apologize and you should tell him to listen.
She didn't yell bad things at your son. He was disrespectful to her rules and she told him to go home. That sounds deserved. |
Anonymous
| I think its fine. I might even have DS apologize to her for not listening. Lesson learned, move on. |
Anonymous
She shouldn't apologize for the neighbor yelling. Her son disobeyed. She should tell him he was wrong and he needs to follow the rules. |
Anonymous
| The neighbor was fine, op. Two learning points here, clearly conveyed. I hope the kids apologized for not listening and helped her retrieve the dog. |
Anonymous
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Totally reasonable to end the play date. They didn’t listen and I’m sure her anger was toward her own son and she was stressed that the dog got out and she needed to safely get him back home.
Totally fair consequence for her own son not to be able to have friends over for the rest of the day. |
Anonymous
so does the mom |
Anonymous
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JFC what did you want her to do? Blow sunshine and rainbows up his a$$ and ask him about his feelings?
The kids didn't listen to directions and let the dog out. They don't get to play anymore. Natural consequences. Team neighbor all the way. |