Nanny waited in the shade and put baby in the sun while standing in line

[Anonymous]

Nanny was standing in a 15 min outdoor line for story time at the library to begin. It was a hot day and she left baby in the stroller to hold her place in line, and she herself stood in the shade under a tree about 20 feet away while waiting. She did not fully put the baby's sunshade up, so the baby was in the sun. How would you feel about this?

[Anonymous]

Define "hot day" and tell me how old the baby is, because it depends.

A 2 year old on a high 70s day that felt warm? Not thrilled. A 3 month old in the 90s? Fire immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define "hot day" and tell me how old the baby is, because it depends.

A 2 year old on a high 70s day that felt warm? Not thrilled. A 3 month old in the 90s? Fire immediately.

12 month old on a high 70s day that was hot in direct sun. What should I do or say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define "hot day" and tell me how old the baby is, because it depends.

A 2 year old on a high 70s day that felt warm? Not thrilled. A 3 month old in the 90s? Fire immediately.

12 month old on a high 70s day that was hot in direct sun. What should I do or say?

Is the nanny your employee or do you know the parents and saw it? If the latter, I would want to be told, but in a way that makes it clear the person telling me will understand that I get to do what I want with the information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define "hot day" and tell me how old the baby is, because it depends.

A 2 year old on a high 70s day that felt warm? Not thrilled. A 3 month old in the 90s? Fire immediately.

12 month old on a high 70s day that was hot in direct sun. What should I do or say?

Is the nanny your employee or do you know the parents and saw it? If the latter, I would want to be told, but in a way that makes it clear the person telling me will understand that I get to do what I want with the information.

My employee. She sent me a video of her doing this. (The video was from her perspective of her in the shade, and showed the baby in the stroller in the line.) DH says to give her the benefit of the doubt and that maybe she just sent me the video to show that there was a line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define "hot day" and tell me how old the baby is, because it depends.

A 2 year old on a high 70s day that felt warm? Not thrilled. A 3 month old in the 90s? Fire immediately.

12 month old on a high 70s day that was hot in direct sun. What should I do or say?

Is the nanny your employee or do you know the parents and saw it? If the latter, I would want to be told, but in a way that makes it clear the person telling me will understand that I get to do what I want with the information.

My employee. She sent me a video of her doing this. (The video was from her perspective of her in the shade, and showed the baby in the stroller in the line.) DH says to give her the benefit of the doubt and that maybe she just sent me the video to show that there was a line.

If it were my nanny and there were no other issues, I'd go over staying closer to my child and sun safety, but nothing else. And I'd do it nicely. "Hey I realize we never before addressed some of these issues, but I wanted to clarify what we'd like to see..."

[Anonymous]

Just talk with her about sun protection.

[Anonymous]

I would reply and ask her to fix the sun shade. Do you think she just moved away to take the picture of the line?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would reply and ask her to fix the sun shade. Do you think she just moved away to take the picture of the line?

I'd like to think that. She is a new nanny so it is hard to tell. It's not just really about sun protection, it's about a fundamental lack of care and thoughtfulness. She is putting herself before the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define "hot day" and tell me how old the baby is, because it depends.

A 2 year old on a high 70s day that felt warm? Not thrilled. A 3 month old in the 90s? Fire immediately.

12 month old on a high 70s day that was hot in direct sun. What should I do or say?

Is the nanny your employee or do you know the parents and saw it? If the latter, I would want to be told, but in a way that makes it clear the person telling me will understand that I get to do what I want with the information.

My employee. She sent me a video of her doing this. (The video was from her perspective of her in the shade, and showed the baby in the stroller in the line.) DH says to give her the benefit of the doubt and that maybe she just sent me the video to show that there was a line.

You know her better than we do. If I was just sending a photo of the baby to show the parents where we were and what we were doing, I might snap a similar photo and then go pick up the baby and bring her under the shade with me as soon as I’d taken the photo, leaving the stroller to hold our place in line. I wouldn’t have the sunshade up all the way for the photo because then you couldn’t see the baby.

If you generally find this nanny competent and you like her, just take this as an opportunity to have a discussion about sun exposure and protection and give her guidelines, but don’t mention the photo. It’s that time of year when the sun is getting more intense and now your baby is old enough to play outside, so it’s entirely appropriate to have this discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would reply and ask her to fix the sun shade. Do you think she just moved away to take the picture of the line?

I'd like to think that. She is a new nanny so it is hard to tell. It's not just really about sun protection, it's about a fundamental lack of care and thoughtfulness. She is putting herself before the baby.

If she’s new and you don’t know her well yet and this is happening in real time, ask her if there’s a shady spot where they can wait so baby doesn’t get too much sun or too hot.

[Anonymous]

how do you know this op?

[Anonymous]

Did she move to the shade to take the photo for you? I mean this might have been a 10 second event.

Also do you ask her to take the baby to story time? If so, the fact that your baby is in the sun is on you because you set the schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would reply and ask her to fix the sun shade. Do you think she just moved away to take the picture of the line?

I'd like to think that. She is a new nanny so it is hard to tell. It's not just really about sun protection, it's about a fundamental lack of care and thoughtfulness. She is putting herself before the baby.

It seems like you're jumping to conclusions and looking to find problems. This does not bode well for your relationship with this (or possibly any) nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would reply and ask her to fix the sun shade. Do you think she just moved away to take the picture of the line?

I'd like to think that. She is a new nanny so it is hard to tell. It's not just really about sun protection, it's about a fundamental lack of care and thoughtfulness. She is putting herself before the baby.

Unless she only left the baby for a minute to take a picture. Just tuck it away...