is it possible to adopt a baby in 2025

[Anonymous]

I would like to pursue adoption - but I don't know where to start. And I feel discouraged - is there data about the likelihood of adopting a child? How many people are seeking to adopt? I've watched some videos from local adoption agencies. Where should I start? With an agency? A lawyer?

[Anonymous]

You can go to events at Barker and Paths for Families and JSSA, or talk to a lawyer who belongs to the American Association of Adoption Attorneys. You can also look into international adoption (which has decreased considerably) and adoption from foster care (where you either need to be ok with the fact that the goal for many years will be reunification with relatives or you need to adopt an older child whose parental rights have been terminated--and who has been through significant trauma on top of whatever history they have with their family).

If what you mean is "is it possible to be chosen to adopt a healthy baby from strangers who have no history of mental illness or addiction in a short time frame?" the answer is probably not.

[Anonymous]

If you're open to fostering, some children in the foster care system end up being adopted by their foster parents. It's not an easy or fast process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can go to events at Barker and Paths for Families and JSSA, or talk to a lawyer who belongs to the American Association of Adoption Attorneys. You can also look into international adoption (which has decreased considerably) and adoption from foster care (where you either need to be ok with the fact that the goal for many years will be reunification with relatives or you need to adopt an older child whose parental rights have been terminated--and who has been through significant trauma on top of whatever history they have with their family).

If what you mean is "is it possible to be chosen to adopt a healthy baby from strangers who have no history of mental illness or addiction in a short time frame?" the answer is probably not.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can go to events at Barker and Paths for Families and JSSA, or talk to a lawyer who belongs to the American Association of Adoption Attorneys. You can also look into international adoption (which has decreased considerably) and adoption from foster care (where you either need to be ok with the fact that the goal for many years will be reunification with relatives or you need to adopt an older child whose parental rights have been terminated--and who has been through significant trauma on top of whatever history they have with their family).

If what you mean is "is it possible to be chosen to adopt a healthy baby from strangers who have no history of mental illness or addiction in a short time frame?" the answer is probably not.

JSSA is good for home studies but they don’t do adoption. Barker is terrible.

Yes it is. Get a home study, sign up with multiple agencies and advertise on your own.

[Anonymous]

OP here - I am comfortable with a long wait and with medical needs. I think I am more overwhelmed with how to start...and with the uncertainty. But I'd rather try than spend a lifetime wondering what could have been. thank you for the advice about the home study and signing up with multiple agencies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I am comfortable with a long wait and with medical needs. I think I am more overwhelmed with how to start...and with the uncertainty. But I'd rather try than spend a lifetime wondering what could have been. thank you for the advice about the home study and signing up with multiple agencies.

Get a home study, and a good attorney. Jennifer Fairfax was very good but she switched to becoming a judge but this is her former practice. https://www.modernfamilyformation.com Anyone can do your homestudy and you do not need a local agency so look at placement rates.

[Anonymous]

From what I've seen, try and befriend people who are in the ob/gyn community. Doctors, nurses, etc. They often know of women who are seeking to find adoptive homes while they are still pregnant. Then all you need is an attorney.

I know a person in that field who had a young unmarried woman that indicated she wanted to find a home for her soon-to-be-born child.

Nurse essentially "sold" herself & her DH to the young woman, had an attorney draw up the paperwork for private adoption, and 3 days after birth she took the child home.

Many people may think this is wrong and unethical, but it isn't illegal and it happens a lot more than you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From what I've seen, try and befriend people who are in the ob/gyn community. Doctors, nurses, etc. They often know of women who are seeking to find adoptive homes while they are still pregnant. Then all you need is an attorney.

I know a person in that field who had a young unmarried woman that indicated she wanted to find a home for her soon-to-be-born child.

Nurse essentially "sold" herself & her DH to the young woman, had an attorney draw up the paperwork for private adoption, and 3 days after birth she took the child home.

Many people may think this is wrong and unethical, but it isn't illegal and it happens a lot more than you think.

Yes it’s unethical.

[Anonymous]

Of course if you take a non white baby who was exposed to drugs and.or alcohol in the womb. Most don't want that though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can go to events at Barker and Paths for Families and JSSA, or talk to a lawyer who belongs to the American Association of Adoption Attorneys. You can also look into international adoption (which has decreased considerably) and adoption from foster care (where you either need to be ok with the fact that the goal for many years will be reunification with relatives or you need to adopt an older child whose parental rights have been terminated--and who has been through significant trauma on top of whatever history they have with their family).

If what you mean is "is it possible to be chosen to adopt a healthy baby from strangers who have no history of mental illness or addiction in a short time frame?" the answer is probably not.

+1

I know a pediatrician in Michigan who was just “given “ signed over a baby about 15 years ago. I don’t know but good luck. I think it’s noble and wonderful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From what I've seen, try and befriend people who are in the ob/gyn community. Doctors, nurses, etc. They often know of women who are seeking to find adoptive homes while they are still pregnant. Then all you need is an attorney.

I know a person in that field who had a young unmarried woman that indicated she wanted to find a home for her soon-to-be-born child.

Nurse essentially "sold" herself & her DH to the young woman, had an attorney draw up the paperwork for private adoption, and 3 days after birth she took the child home.

Many people may think this is wrong and unethical, but it isn't illegal and it happens a lot more than you think.

Yes it’s unethical.

The friend I know is a pediatrician herself. She just made the connection and adopted the baby for herself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From what I've seen, try and befriend people who are in the ob/gyn community. Doctors, nurses, etc. They often know of women who are seeking to find adoptive homes while they are still pregnant. Then all you need is an attorney.

I know a person in that field who had a young unmarried woman that indicated she wanted to find a home for her soon-to-be-born child.

Nurse essentially "sold" herself & her DH to the young woman, had an attorney draw up the paperwork for private adoption, and 3 days after birth she took the child home.

Many people may think this is wrong and unethical, but it isn't illegal and it happens a lot more than you think.

YIKES 😬

No wonder I got baby snatcher vibes during my daughter's NICU experience. You are telling me medical professionals are actually out there baby shopping at work.

[Anonymous]

How is they more unethical than what we do for race and appearance with sperm for purchase

Why is the baby I know who is ivf to single mom (single mom no siblings) i imaginably gorgeous and blond with huge blue eyes??

uh, my teacher- friend’s parents paid for that ! Her kid will go to the tony school where she teaches

[Anonymous]

Or how is that less or more ethical than women selling their wombs for the gestation period?