Donor siblings?

[Anonymous]

We have a 6 month old and recently found a group with 5 other families. Some local .

I think we originally thought we would get together once our daughter was old enough and could have a say in it but we are some best practices for donor conceived people and are now wondering if we should get together with these other families. It looks like they are trying to plan some get togethers a few times a year.

All the babies seem to be within a year of each other so far. At least the ones in this group. I'm sure more out there.

Would love any thoughts or if you have navigated similar?

[Anonymous]

This is a repeat thread. Fabricated and same as three weeks ago under Off topic or IVF thread

[Anonymous]

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1159136.page

[Anonymous]

My kids were conceived via donor sperm. From the donor sibling registry, I know that there are at least 19 1/2 siblings out there. I choose not to register and I wonder how many others are like me and didn't register so my guess is that the number is higher.

I think it's up to your family if you want to meet these people. Other than sharing some DNA, I don't know them and I have no interest in meeting them. You may feel differently. Now, if one of them posted that one of the kids had a genetic disorder and was looking for a donor match, I would get my kids tested and would help if possible.

[Anonymous]

19? Where is that ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a repeat thread. Fabricated and same as three weeks ago under Off topic or IVF thread

What are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids were conceived via donor sperm. From the donor sibling registry, I know that there are at least 19 1/2 siblings out there. I choose not to register and I wonder how many others are like me and didn't register so my guess is that the number is higher.

I think it's up to your family if you want to meet these people. Other than sharing some DNA, I don't know them and I have no interest in meeting them. You may feel differently. Now, if one of them posted that one of the kids had a genetic disorder and was looking for a donor match, I would get my kids tested and would help if possible.

19! Yeah we are registered but didn't want to pay for the upgrade to message. Forgot our bank has a family forum.

We talked about not emeshing with these ppl and we certainly don't see them as siblings but if DD wanted to in the future she could have a relationship. I guess it's easy to second guess every single thing. Would she resent us if we didn't reach out and the others were closer? We also don't want to make her entire identity being a dcp.

I am most interested if something pops up health wise. I feel like doing one meeting as babies to get familiar might be good? I'm not sure the protocol do families have to report to dsr any medical stuff?

[Anonymous]

What do you mean you don’t see them as siblings? Of course they are biological half siblings. That matters a lot to many donor-conceived people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean you don’t see them as siblings? Of course they are biological half siblings. That matters a lot to many donor-conceived people.

As full siblings. We would call them donor siblings. But we don't necessarily want to create a dynamic where they are seeing each other regularly since th y live close before DD can consent. If she wants to/when she wants to that's great but I'd hate to cultivate relationships she doesn't want. We are close to friends and their kids and they call each other cousins. We don't see us doing the same unless DD wants to later on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids were conceived via donor sperm. From the donor sibling registry, I know that there are at least 19 1/2 siblings out there. I choose not to register and I wonder how many others are like me and didn't register so my guess is that the number is higher.

I think it's up to your family if you want to meet these people. Other than sharing some DNA, I don't know them and I have no interest in meeting them. You may feel differently. Now, if one of them posted that one of the kids had a genetic disorder and was looking for a donor match, I would get my kids tested and would help if possible.

It’s not about you, it’s about your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids were conceived via donor sperm. From the donor sibling registry, I know that there are at least 19 1/2 siblings out there. I choose not to register and I wonder how many others are like me and didn't register so my guess is that the number is higher.

I think it's up to your family if you want to meet these people. Other than sharing some DNA, I don't know them and I have no interest in meeting them. You may feel differently. Now, if one of them posted that one of the kids had a genetic disorder and was looking for a donor match, I would get my kids tested and would help if possible.

19! Yeah we are registered but didn't want to pay for the upgrade to message. Forgot our bank has a family forum.

We talked about not emeshing with these ppl and we certainly don't see them as siblings but if DD wanted to in the future she could have a relationship. I guess it's easy to second guess every single thing. Would she resent us if we didn't reach out and the others were closer? We also don't want to make her entire identity being a dcp.

I am most interested if something pops up health wise. I feel like doing one meeting as babies to get familiar might be good? I'm not sure the protocol do families have to report to dsr any medical stuff?

What state allows 19 half siblings ? Is there a database by each state. That’s a lot