Thanksgiving Dinner at your place

[Anonymous]

Are you having one if your parents are sick, and cannot eat solids?

[Anonymous]

How many people are involved who are healthy?

[Anonymous]

8/9

[Anonymous]

Sure then have a dinner. Ask parents if they would like to attend or just have a visit from everyone.

[Anonymous]

This depends on so many things. Will your parents try to eat things they can't and then choke on the solid food or get agitated when you tell them they can't have turkey and stuffing? Then no.

Will they chill in a corner and not really pay attention to the food? And enjoy seeing the rest of the family? Then yes.

[Anonymous]

Why should 9 people forego TG? I doubt the elders would want that.

[Anonymous]

I would. My mom would have felt awful to think people weren’t having Thanksgiving bc of her. Plus the food is only part of it; the rest is the coming together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why should 9 people forego TG? I doubt the elders would want that.

Haven't thought about it this way.

I cant imagine having a table full of food when an elder is suffering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This depends on so many things. Will your parents try to eat things they can't and then choke on the solid food or get agitated when you tell them they can't have turkey and stuffing? Then no.

Will they chill in a corner and not really pay attention to the food? And enjoy seeing the rest of the family? Then yes.

No wont be able to have a single thing.
Nor be able to be a part of it in the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This depends on so many things. Will your parents try to eat things they can't and then choke on the solid food or get agitated when you tell them they can't have turkey and stuffing? Then no.

Will they chill in a corner and not really pay attention to the food? And enjoy seeing the rest of the family? Then yes.

No wont be able to have a single thing.
Nor be able to be a part of it in the room.

So have the meal and then the whole group goes for an extended visit. Maybe have pie? They might enjoy the aroma.. Ask them about TG when they were little or try to inspire old family stories another way. Take lots of pictures.

[Anonymous]

Does your elder live with you? If not maybe celebrate with them a day before or after?

[Anonymous]

Well if you cannot bear to host with Elders not eating, someone else has to step up and host the 8/9 at their place. You sit home with your Elders if that's what you all want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your elder live with you? If not maybe celebrate with them a day before or after?

Yes lives with me.

[Anonymous]

So what's your plan? Not eat either because your elder cannot? You're going to die with them?

[Anonymous]

If they live with you, it would seem like people could take turns visiting with your elder (sounds like they are bed bound).

If you’re doing full time elder care and hosting, cater a buffet.