Teens and custody

[Anonymous]

Older teen, just turned 17. Does not want to stay with one parent but that parent does not want to give up physical custody mostly for financial reasons. How do you work that out? Child literally won't go and no amount of threatening or consequences or bribing will work.

[Anonymous]

Be a parent and not let it be an option. Or, offer to continue to pay the child support to that parent in exchange for the kid but a good parent encourages the relationship. They don't need to give up physical custody. Kid can just stay with you. By the time you went to court kid will be almost 18. If you think they want the money, let them keep the money and custody and you take the kid.

[Anonymous]

You pay or forego the support and support your child. Don’t badmouth and do your best to discourage negativity about the other parent. In the scheme of things unless you can’t afford to live without the money at issue, it’s worth so much more to give your child what they need.

[Anonymous]

Have the kid tell him he doesn't want to spend time with him.

[Anonymous]

Grown enough to decide for himself.
In many states 17 is legal to move out on his own if he wants also.

[Anonymous]

He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

If it’s court ordered he need to go.

[Anonymous]

I would certainly not force a 17 year old. Let the other parent threaten consequences. If college tuition is on the line, then it's time to get practical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

If it’s court ordered he need to go.

Even if it is court ordered the young adults wishes should still take priority, it's not his fault he has divorced parents so why should he suffer the consequences of divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

If it’s court ordered he need to go.

Even if it is court ordered the young adults wishes should still take priority, it's not his fault he has divorced parents so why should he suffer the consequences of divorce?

This. There is no law that says you have to follow a court order: it is there to be enforced if there is a major disagreement.

I am divorced. We don’t follow what “the court order” says. My ex is an attorney. We are more flexible than a court order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would certainly not force a 17 year old. Let the other parent threaten consequences. If college tuition is on the line, then it's time to get practical.

This. They are welcome to push it in court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

If it’s court ordered he need to go.

Even if it is court ordered the young adults wishes should still take priority, it's not his fault he has divorced parents so why should he suffer the consequences of divorce?

This. There is no law that says you have to follow a court order: it is there to be enforced if there is a major disagreement.

I am divorced. We don’t follow what “the court order” says. My ex is an attorney. We are more flexible than a court order.

A court order is law. Your ex is a bad attorney. It’s not a suggestion, it the rules you follow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

If it’s court ordered he need to go.

Even if it is court ordered the young adults wishes should still take priority, it's not his fault he has divorced parents so why should he suffer the consequences of divorce?

This is why kids are screwed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

If it’s court ordered he need to go.

Even if it is court ordered the young adults wishes should still take priority, it's not his fault he has divorced parents so why should he suffer the consequences of divorce?

This is why kids are screwed up.

Alot of kids are screwed up because their lives were turned upside down by divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is 17. He doesn’t need to go if he doesn’t want to. Forget custody and support and $.

If it’s court ordered he need to go.

Even if it is court ordered the young adults wishes should still take priority, it's not his fault he has divorced parents so why should he suffer the consequences of divorce?

This. There is no law that says you have to follow a court order: it is there to be enforced if there is a major disagreement.

I am divorced. We don’t follow what “the court order” says. My ex is an attorney. We are more flexible than a court order.

A court order is law. Your ex is a bad attorney. It’s not a suggestion, it the rules you follow.

What do you think the court will do if a 17 year old refuses to go?