Matching excitement

[Anonymous]

Quick question: this is a pattern I’ve noticed that I need some help with. Something good is in the works. I’m happy but am keeping pretty composed especially until it becomes reality. Dh is psyched, as he should be. He puts so much pressure on me to express my excitement like he does, that I end up withdrawing a bit which starts a conflict between us (why aren’t you happy?!?). What can I do to either communicate that I am happy and this is how I show reserved happy? Or otherwise get him to back off. I want to express excitement but I find it harder and harder in the face of his excitement. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quick question: this is a pattern I’ve noticed that I need some help with. Something good is in the works. I’m happy but am keeping pretty composed especially until it becomes reality. Dh is psyched, as he should be. He puts so much pressure on me to express my excitement like he does, that I end up withdrawing a bit which starts a conflict between us (why aren’t you happy?!?). What can I do to either communicate that I am happy and this is how I show reserved happy? Or otherwise get him to back off. I want to express excitement but I find it harder and harder in the face of his excitement. Thanks!

"Do you think I'm not happy because I'm not expressing it the way you do?"

[Anonymous]

“Of course I’m excited. Your happiness is making me nervous, though, and I don’t want to jinx it.”

[Anonymous]

Ha, this is the dynamic in my marriage but reversed. DH is the even, reserved, type. I am the feel the highs and lows type. We end up laughing about it. It's how he is and who he is and it's how I am and how I react to things. We are all different and handle things differently. Accepting it will make it easier for you.