Do you send your MIL a Mother’s Day card?

[Anonymous]

Or is this your husband’s responsibility? And if so, do you have to remind him and pick up a card for him?

[Anonymous]

No. She’s not my mother.

[Anonymous]

What? No way. He can do it himself. Absurd.

[Anonymous]

OP: are you raising a son?

[Anonymous]

Um, obviously that is my husband’s responsibility. In what universe is this even a question?

And no, I didn’t marry an idiot. I married a man who knows how to use a calendar, a credit card, the postal service, and who manages his own adult relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? No way. He can do it himself. Absurd.

Yup. And mine doesn’t. My IL’s don’t get Christmas presents either. Not my problem.

[Anonymous]

DH nearly always handles but I might say something if he is in stressful situation at work. Sometimes I have BD, MD ideas for MiL (and FiL) so I suggest them to DH and he handles on own or, if expensive enough, raises with his sister.

It was a little ridiculous when SiL threw a fit when we didn't sent her a Mother's Day card or call to wish her HMD. And this is from someone who doesn't think it's her responsibility to wish her parents "Happy Anniversary" ("it's not my anniversary"). as her mother expects her to do (I largely agree, but so weird to then turn on us about Mother's Day).

My MiL can be fairly self involved but she also has a pretty upbeat personality and has been very devoted to our kids, so no hard and fast rules works here for me. But I know that's not always the case and really understand that some wives do not buy the cards/presents for MiL.

[Anonymous]

DH gets it and we all sign it.

[Anonymous]

I think I did the first few years we were married but we’ve now been married 23 years and I’ve long-since stopped.

No I don’t remind my husband to send one and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t. That’s not my relationship to manage.

[Anonymous]

DH handles everything related to his parents. Always has nn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH gets it and we all sign it.

This

[Anonymous]

No. I used to but I don’t anymore. I don’t send my mom one either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I did the first few years we were married but we’ve now been married 23 years and I’ve long-since stopped.

No I don’t remind my husband to send one and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t. That’s not my relationship to manage.

This. I’m too old to care anymore.

[Anonymous]

I did for many many years. But after my mom died I told him that he needed to handle it. The Mothers Day card aisle was too difficult.

[Anonymous]

no