Executive function coach?

[Anonymous]

For those whose kids have used them, can you tell me about what specifically they do? How often do they meet (virtually or in person)? And have your students learned and adopted the skills for themselves? How long did they need the coach for? Approximate monthly cost? Was it worth it? And if you had a great one, would you say who they are? Thank you so much.

Kid just finished freshman year. I was concerned about the number of credits plus a job and a competitive team, but it was worse than I could imagine. He needs help and finally wants help. It’s the amount of stuff to do plus the amount of ‘free’ (non-class) time that is difficult and overwhelming for him.

[Anonymous]

Just detox electronics abs take away their iPhone.

Voila! Ex function problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Following!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just detox electronics abs take away their iPhone.

Voila! Ex function problem solved.

The kid is in college.

[Anonymous]

Mine met with EF coach once a week thru HS, and co minutes once a week virtually, in college. At the beginning of the semester they go thru the syllabus and mark up a calendar with "to dos." Then as they meet, they go through the to dos, and sometimes schedule out time (exam next Tuesday, need to complete readings by xx, study for one hour on Sat, review Sun, study Mon, exam Tues), or 10 page paper due Tues, when to do outline, start writing, edit, complete paper

I wish the skills to do this on their own were being taught, but this child/young adult will always wait until the last minute unless pushed. And, with their career path, the job/s they will eventually have are doing things with/for others, so papers will not need to be written. From what we've seen with summer jobs in their field and internships, they will eventually be just fine

Not going to lie, its a lot of $$ (all put of pocket), but if it gets them through college, it's worth it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just detox electronics abs take away their iPhone.

Voila! Ex function problem solved.

You probably also think people with dyslexia or ADHD are just lazy, don’t you?

[Anonymous]

My son is a senior who will need an EF coach in college and I’m dreading the cost. He has had EF coaches in the past and while it was helpful, he never did pick up the habit of doing it himself. He always waits until the last minute and gets himself in trouble.

[Anonymous]

We hired an EF coach AND a therapist.

For a long time, DD resisted any help at all but spring semester of senior year in high school was a disaster with DD almost getting a D because they forgot to turn in an assignment. The school gave her unofficial accommodations. Even after that, I saw DD had a B in another class only because they "failed" an assignment they did and never turned in. I had to help them get that sorted out with a very strict teacher and a helpful and kind principal.

While they have good grades, they put in HOURS. The distractions make everything take longer.

The EF coach taught them some strategies. They began using their calendar and implementing other ideas from the coach. The cost was around $100 for 30 minutes or $150 for a hour.

Eventually, DD didn't think she was learning more from the EF coach.

When a spot opened up in the university's program for ADD kids, DD took a spot there. Now, they have a group meeting and a 1-1 coach from the university. This program was an extra $2,000 or so.

DD had to drop math in fall semester. I suspect they have another undiagnosed LD related to math or that ADD makes math hard for them.

The good news is that DD handled dropping the class with their advisor. They made adult decisions about this on their own and then informed us, and I was happy to see them starting to take charge of their disabilities and manage them as well as they can.

I'm nervous about the grades, but I also know everything will work out. People love this kid and gravitate toward her. She has fantastic friends and will probably get a great job due to her personality and work ethic.

[Anonymous]

Jesus Christ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine met with EF coach once a week thru HS, and co minutes once a week virtually, in college. At the beginning of the semester they go thru the syllabus and mark up a calendar with "to dos." Then as they meet, they go through the to dos, and sometimes schedule out time (exam next Tuesday, need to complete readings by xx, study for one hour on Sat, review Sun, study Mon, exam Tues), or 10 page paper due Tues, when to do outline, start writing, edit, complete paper

I wish the skills to do this on their own were being taught, but this child/young adult will always wait until the last minute unless pushed. And, with their career path, the job/s they will eventually have are doing things with/for others, so papers will not need to be written. From what we've seen with summer jobs in their field and internships, they will eventually be just fine

Not going to lie, its a lot of $$ (all put of pocket), but if it gets them through college, it's worth it

Thanks. Yes this kid is a procrastinator too but I think it’s tied together with being easily distracted and little EF skills. High school was more structured so he was okay. But he needs some more guidance to help him manage now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hired an EF coach AND a therapist.

For a long time, DD resisted any help at all but spring semester of senior year in high school was a disaster with DD almost getting a D because they forgot to turn in an assignment. The school gave her unofficial accommodations. Even after that, I saw DD had a B in another class only because they "failed" an assignment they did and never turned in. I had to help them get that sorted out with a very strict teacher and a helpful and kind principal.

While they have good grades, they put in HOURS. The distractions make everything take longer.

The EF coach taught them some strategies. They began using their calendar and implementing other ideas from the coach. The cost was around $100 for 30 minutes or $150 for a hour.

Eventually, DD didn't think she was learning more from the EF coach.

When a spot opened up in the university's program for ADD kids, DD took a spot there. Now, they have a group meeting and a 1-1 coach from the university. This program was an extra $2,000 or so.

DD had to drop math in fall semester. I suspect they have another undiagnosed LD related to math or that ADD makes math hard for them.

The good news is that DD handled dropping the class with their advisor. They made adult decisions about this on their own and then informed us, and I was happy to see them starting to take charge of their disabilities and manage them as well as they can.

I'm nervous about the grades, but I also know everything will work out. People love this kid and gravitate toward her. She has fantastic friends and will probably get a great job due to her personality and work ethic.

Thanks. Yes, he wants to see a therapist too. Things spiraled out of control on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ.

Brittany Spears nation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ.

What was the point of this advice? We do pray, thank you, if that was a reminder.
This kid is one of several siblings in colleges, but he needs extra support. It comes naturally to the others. Very high IQ, and can definitely do the work, but organizational skills stink. I hope an EF coach may provide him techniques and accountability to be successful. I would think that’s a good thing instead of letting your kid flounder and fail. 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

My DS had some executive function issues at the start of HS. We strongly suggested writing lists. He was really resistant at first but it helped enormously. We also encouraged him to advocate for himself, directly with counselors, teachers, coaches. That also helped. The more you practice the more you gain.

[Anonymous]

I went to a training for counselors in McLean.
The place was called Study Pro.

It was about meeting the unique needs of students with executive functioning issues.

I left wanting to sign my kid up for a boot camp over the summer before college. It is the same cost as a season of a travel sport.