37 year old woman: any hope for love?

[Anonymous]

I am a slender Indian woman who is recently divorced. I do not have children as my husband had addiction issues and due to my cultural background I regrettably spent too long trying to make the marriage work.

I am quite attractive; maybe a 6 on the looks scale. Slender, well groomed and dress in classic clothing. I’m so sad and embarrassed to be single again and with no children even to show for it!

I fear all the good men are taken and no one will want me. I am open to men of all ethnicities.

[Anonymous]

dating is hard for everyone, even for attractive 20-somethings. as you get older the pool is smaller (and a bit more avoidant), and that's what makes it tougher. have you tried dating apps?

[Anonymous]

I am sure you will find someone. The only thing you might think about is, it sounds like you dress really conservatively. This will limit the number of men who will be interested just based on looks (we’d all know looks come first with most men). I’m picturing only a very narrow range here that will go for this classically dressed look. Not that you need to dress like a backup dancer or anything, but maybe just a touch of sexiness might go a long way. Just my opinion, spent many a year trying to figure out men myself.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you got married in the first place means you definitely will fair better than my still single Indian friends who have a must-have list so long that person doesn't actually exist.

[Anonymous]

Duplicate of https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1201574.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure you will find someone. The only thing you might think about is, it sounds like you dress really conservatively. This will limit the number of men who will be interested just based on looks (we’d all know looks come first with most men). I’m picturing only a very narrow range here that will go for this classically dressed look. Not that you need to dress like a backup dancer or anything, but maybe just a touch of sexiness might go a long way. Just my opinion, spent many a year trying to figure out men myself.

This is op. Good points. I dress classic/preppy, which obviously is not hot or sexy…I don’t know how to dress in a more revealing way!

[Anonymous]

Be open, be you and everything will fall into place as it should.
Your world is in perfect order.

[Anonymous]

My Indian friend met her husband at 37 and had her first kid at 38. He’s Indian too and is a doctor and a great guy. So that’s one data point. I think a lot of women in their late 30s find love and it doesn’t sound like you divorced for a frivolous reason so I think men will be understanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure you will find someone. The only thing you might think about is, it sounds like you dress really conservatively. This will limit the number of men who will be interested just based on looks (we’d all know looks come first with most men). I’m picturing only a very narrow range here that will go for this classically dressed look. Not that you need to dress like a backup dancer or anything, but maybe just a touch of sexiness might go a long way. Just my opinion, spent many a year trying to figure out men myself.

This is op. Good points. I dress classic/preppy, which obviously is not hot or sexy…I don’t know how to dress in a more revealing way!

Just look for styles you gravitate toward but in somewhat lower cuts for tops/dresses, and shorter lengths for dresses and shorts. You don’t need to totally change your vibe, just tweak it. Men also love bright colors, in my experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a slender Indian woman who is recently divorced. I do not have children as my husband had addiction issues and due to my cultural background I regrettably spent too long trying to make the marriage work.

I am quite attractive; maybe a 6 on the looks scale. Slender, well groomed and dress in classic clothing. I’m so sad and embarrassed to be single again and with no children even to show for it!

I fear all the good men are taken and no one will want me. I am open to men of all ethnicities.

They aren’t all taken.

You’ve done the hard part, and a slender 37 has options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that you got married in the first place means you definitely will fair better than my still single Indian friends who have a must-have list so long that person doesn't actually exist.

I too have these friends and can’t deal with their ridiculous lists

[Anonymous]

I feel like if you have a good body, not much else matters. Sadly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like if you have a good body, not much else matters. Sadly.

This is honestly the best advice. Stay skinny and in shape. You will have no issues finding a good man. You may want to consider hobbies for social interaction rather than dating apps.

Try adventurous stuff outside your comfort zone and you might meet some interesting people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure you will find someone. The only thing you might think about is, it sounds like you dress really conservatively. This will limit the number of men who will be interested just based on looks (we’d all know looks come first with most men). I’m picturing only a very narrow range here that will go for this classically dressed look. Not that you need to dress like a backup dancer or anything, but maybe just a touch of sexiness might go a long way. Just my opinion, spent many a year trying to figure out men myself.

This is op. Good points. I dress classic/preppy, which obviously is not hot or sexy…I don’t know how to dress in a more revealing way!

Wrap dresses with heels and smooth hair are your friend.

[Anonymous]

Agree re: good body

Also long hair which if you are Indian is probably great hair.

I think no kids is actually a selling point in your situation shows you acted responsibly