DD thinks she’s better than everyone

[Anonymous]

DD16 has recently developed a very smug, “I’m better than everyone” sort of attitude. She’s always been a polite kid and will act respectful toward people, but will tear apart their looks, personality, etc. in private. She has told me that she is better (smarter, funnier, etc) than the kids at her school. Even if she is, where is she learning that it’s okay to say that? I’ve always modeled kindness and empathy. I’ve tried bringing this up to her, but her only response was, “so what if it’s mean? It’s true!”

[Anonymous]

What are you going to do about it?

[Anonymous]

She'll fit right in on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

My 15 yr old DD is going through the phase of "everyone's so stupid", except for her and her close friends.

[Anonymous]

I felt that way all throughout high school about most kids. Honestly I ended up being right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt that way all throughout high school about most kids. Honestly I ended up being right.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are you going to do about it?

Well, that’s the issue- I can’t punish her for this because she treats everyone with respect and never vocalizes these opinions. I don’t want her to stop sharing with me…

[Anonymous]

At age 16, I'd start cutting her down. "You may be intellectually smarter, but your EQ seems pretty low these days. Hopefully you'll decide to change that."

[Anonymous]

Most girls are like this. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Life will catch up with her. Until that time comes, best to just grin & bear it.

[Anonymous]

My daughter had a phase like this in 7th grade.

I pointed out multiple times that yes, while her IQ was statistically higher than most of the population, she had a lot of work to do in the patience, empathy and kindness department.

Now she's 14 and she's gotten a lot better.

[Anonymous]

My FIL never grew out of this.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, most teenagers, boys and girls, go through a phase like this.

I like 18:42's suggestion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt that way all throughout high school about most kids. Honestly I ended up being right.

That’s not the point.

[Anonymous]

I’ve always had terrible self esteem. I wish I thought well of myself.