Super dumb question about bridal showers

[Anonymous]

I haven't been to a bridal shower in a long time - now my eldest niece is getting married. Also, I am from the southwest and they are born and bred Long Island (also Catholic and Italian).

Shower invite says to bring something personal to pass on the the bride - like a recipe, etc. Ok, I can do that.

Here's my dumb question - I assume I should order a gift from her registry and have it mailed to her for the actual gift? Like, they don't want me to show up with a gift, right?

Every once in awhile I don't understand the Northeast/Long Island traditions and end up feeling stupid.

[Anonymous]

Send a gift from the registry. They will bring it to the shower and unwrap it there. If you were local, you would buy a registry gift and bring it with you.

[Anonymous]

Long islander here. Unless otherwise instructed, you should arrive with a wrapped gift from the registry. They most likely will open the gifts as part of the shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send a gift from the registry. They will bring it to the shower and unwrap it there. If you were local, you would buy a registry gift and bring it with you.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Are you going to the shower or not? It reads like you want to send a gift in advance so you don't show up with one.

[Anonymous]

I'm from Long Island. They open gifts at the shower. Order from the registry and have it sent to you so you can walk in with a gift - otherwise you'll feel funny (especially if you sent it and it accidentally got left behind).

[Anonymous]

I married into Italian Catholic NY family - wrap the gift and bring it to the shower. Trust me

[Anonymous]

Just curious if they do this at bridal showers on Long Island - create a "bouquet" for the bride from the ribbon that the presents are wrapped in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send a gift from the registry. They will bring it to the shower and unwrap it there. If you were local, you would buy a registry gift and bring it with you.

No they absolutely will not. Order a gift and bring it to the shower. Don’t make the bride bring her own gift to the shower then open it.

[Anonymous]

OP call the host and ask! It’s okay to ask. People do all kinds of things now. I routinely go to “no gifts” showers and send registry gifts in the mail for the actual wedding. Just call the host and ask.