Friend no more
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Anonymous
| I have known this person for a few years although only hung out in a group. I held her in high regard because she was always kind, it seemed to all. But more recently she has revealed herself to be the opposite. First, she treats the family pet dog very poorly. Not clear she’s aware, but there’s a disregard for the animal to such an extent that I can’t believe she would treat any living being so callously. Not abusive but just not caring. In a recent interaction with me, she acted in a way where it appeared she was trying to establish dominance. It was so bizarre. I see her in such a different light. How did I not see it before? I never liked her husband who made inappropriate advances towards me, and I used to feel sorry for her. But now, I think they might actually deserve one another. |
Anonymous
| So, distance is your answer, OP. What is the question? |
Anonymous
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Ok? So?
PS -- I think you probably imagined the "inappropriate advances." |
Anonymous
How one treats animals generally, and pets that are dependent on an individual's care, is a character test for me, as well. |
Anonymous
| Sociopath types are always very charming on the facade. Underneath is a different story. Red flags here- stay away. |
Anonymous
| I can not abide by abusing or neglecting animals. I stole someone's dog because she was neglecting it. |
Anonymous
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This has happened to me OP. It can be hard to realize you really misread a person, or maybe fell for an act and missed some early red flags.
On the bright side, it sounds like you aren't very enmeshed with each other and it should be pretty easy to just keep her at arms length, if you've only ever hung out in a group anyway. This happened to me once with two women who I let into my life in a big way and separating from them was very difficult because it felt like an actual breakup. I have since been much more cautious about who I let into my life, share confidences with, etc. Hopefully you are not in that situation and can just incorporate your new knowledge of her and behave accordingly moving forward. Does not seem like a great loss! |
Anonymous
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A lot of what you describe is subjective.
What does she do with the dog? What inappropriate advances? Maybe you're correct, and by any societal measure, these people are not right in the head. Or maybe you're particularly sensitive, and they're within the range of normal. But since you can't stand them, the ending is the same - distance yourself. |
Anonymous
| For those claiming I imagined the advances from her dh— it couldn’t have been any clearer. First instance, at a party, I was wearing a summer dress with straps and he kissed me on the side of my neck from behind— I didn’t know how to react so I just pretended it didn’t happen and avoided him. |
Anonymous
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 I don’t know how I would have reacted. Probably the same. I imagine I would have frozen up and avoided him then left early. I would never want to be around him again. Someone willing to do that at a party is someone I imagine is willing to do a whole lot more. |
Anonymous
| Cool story. |