Dating a Busy Man?

[Anonymous]

I a currently in a relationship with a man who has a demanding career and a son he spends time with. I also have kids and it makes it very difficult to see each other. Everytime we make plans, something comes up - his son gets sick, he has to work, he has a repair person over his house etc. It really seems like we just don't have time to see each other. I am curious if anyone else has experienced this and what did you decide to do. I think our timing is off and we should end the relationship. I do like him and enjoy spending time with and certainly see a future but I think it is impossible for us to build any connection if we barely see each other and talk on the phone about 4 times a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I a currently in a relationship with a man who has a demanding career and a son he spends time with. I also have kids and it makes it very difficult to see each other. Everytime we make plans, something comes up - his son gets sick, he has to work, he has a repair person over his house etc. It really seems like we just don't have time to see each other. I am curious if anyone else has experienced this and what did you decide to do. I think our timing is off and we should end the relationship. I do like him and enjoy spending time with and certainly see a future but I think it is impossible for us to build any connection if we barely see each other and talk on the phone about 4 times a week.

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He has other priorities. If you want to be the priority, this is not the relationship for you. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I a currently in a relationship with a man who has a demanding career and a son he spends time with. I also have kids and it makes it very difficult to see each other. Everytime we make plans, something comes up - his son gets sick, he has to work, he has a repair person over his house etc. It really seems like we just don't have time to see each other. I am curious if anyone else has experienced this and what did you decide to do. I think our timing is off and we should end the relationship. I do like him and enjoy spending time with and certainly see a future but I think it is impossible for us to build any connection if we barely see each other and talk on the phone about 4 times a week.

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He has other priorities. If you want to be the priority, this is not the relationship for you. Move on.

The man has a purpose. Go find someone that doesn't have one.

[Anonymous]

Does he live in Richmond? I could have written this post!

I am ending it FWIW, only he's been too busy to have the conversation (which I think says everything).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he live in Richmond? I could have written this post!

I am ending it FWIW, only he's been too busy to have the conversation (which I think says everything).

Sounds like a good excuse to ghost.

[Anonymous]

A man who wants you makes the time.

[Anonymous]

I dated a man who had elementary aged reigns and a medical practice at which he worked 7am to 10pm with 20 minutes for lunch.

He texted constantly, we spoke every day, and met up twice a week somehow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he live in Richmond? I could have written this post!

I am ending it FWIW, only he's been too busy to have the conversation (which I think says everything).

Sounds like a good excuse to ghost.

Exactly. He hasn’t treated you with much respect, why extend the courtesy of an official breakup?

Let him sit and wonder what happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he live in Richmond? I could have written this post!

I am ending it FWIW, only he's been too busy to have the conversation (which I think says everything).

Sounds like a good excuse to ghost.

Exactly. He hasn’t treated you with much respect, why extend the courtesy of an official breakup?

Let him sit and wonder what happened.

He probably won't even wonder. He'll know. And he won't care. He'll just get back on the apps when feels the need to do so.

[Anonymous]

People who care make time. Even FWB.

[Anonymous]

I agree with others. A guy that's into you will make the time. They just will.

People use the 'I'm busy' to pass out breadcrumbs to keep you on the line, but no plans to make it something serious.

[Anonymous]

Thanks this is exactly what I am thinking. The odd part is I didnt want the relationship in the first place, he DID! I just wanted to be FWB.

[Anonymous]

I’m in a relationship like this and it is extremely difficult to feel close to the other person. Don’t feel like we are partners or that I have a say in anything. Either accept it and go with the flow as long as you can or end it. No real options. I’m sticking it out for the time being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man who wants you makes the time.

This. You aren’t a priority. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a relationship like this and it is extremely difficult to feel close to the other person. Don’t feel like we are partners or that I have a say in anything. Either accept it and go with the flow as long as you can or end it. No real options. I’m sticking it out for the time being.

You aren't and you don't. That is why you "feel like" this.