When you’re married to a dud

[Anonymous]

Just a wet blanket. He has become so predictable. What a turn off.

[Anonymous]

Your post is dud - how about some effort?

[Anonymous]

Call me.

[Anonymous]

What you think is dully predictable, other people might consider steady and reliable. What do you want, exactly? More date nights or "surprise" vacations and don't want to ask for them, but expect your spouse to read your mind? Or do you just mean you want new things sexually but expect your spouse to read your mind? Asking seriously because your post could mean anything or nothing.

[Anonymous]

The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a wet blanket. He has become so predictable. What a turn off.

Unless it was a forced marriage when you were a minor, you are responsible for not settling for duds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.

It’s also disrespectful to leave messes for others in your home, not respond to emails, not greet people, not do what you agreed to do.

And after a pattern of that disrespect and selfishness, people don’t respect you nor speak favorably of you.

Funny how that works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What you think is dully predictable, other people might consider steady and reliable. What do you want, exactly? More date nights or "surprise" vacations and don't want to ask for them, but expect your spouse to read your mind? Or do you just mean you want new things sexually but expect your spouse to read your mind? Asking seriously because your post could mean anything or nothing.

Predictably unreliable ain't flattering. Neither is predictably absent minded or predictably blaming others for your shortcomings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.

It’s also disrespectful to leave messes for others in your home, not respond to emails, not greet people, not do what you agreed to do.

And after a pattern of that disrespect and selfishness, people don’t respect you nor speak favorably of you.

Funny how that works.

Indeed - a dud begets a dud, a wet blanket begets a wet blanket...

[Anonymous]

If this is not how he has always been, you don't make that clear...sounds like mental health issues, like depression. How long has he been like this? Any other life circumstances happening? You don't sound very compassionate, unless you have explored the cause of the behavior already?

[Anonymous]

I am the dud. Currently engaged to someone who doesn’t realize it. I work at a low level in a prestigious profession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the dud. Currently engaged to someone who doesn’t realize it. I work at a low level in a prestigious profession.

You're a GP MD?

[Anonymous]

Divorce her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way you are referring to your spouse shows a total lack of respect, it’s doesn’t bode well for your marriage. I am not defending them, I am sure they have their faults but the words we use are indicative of what our thought are.

It’s also disrespectful to leave messes for others in your home, not respond to emails, not greet people, not do what you agreed to do.

And after a pattern of that disrespect and selfishness, people don’t respect you nor speak favorably of you.

Funny how that works.

Then divorce him (and I am not one of those women on here always calling for divorce). If you are so put off by him, grow up and leave. JFC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the dud. Currently engaged to someone who doesn’t realize it. I work at a low level in a prestigious profession.

So step it up if you acknowledge this as a weakness. Otherwise get a prenup because divorce will follow.