Serious Soul Searching

[Anonymous]

Ending another relationship with a man who convinced me he was someone else...and it hurts! I feel so let down. I am also ashamed. I can't believe I allowed myself to get here. He is 45 years old!

-He has been unemployed for 3 years and 3 months
-He has done very little in my opinion to find a job in this amount of time. Absolutely bare minimum. Applied for a few things using his phone.
-I pay for the car he drives, after he convinced me he needed it in order to find and hold a job. He said he would pay for it. This was a year and 2 months ago.
-I pay for my own car and insurance as well
-I pay the mortgage for a beautiful home that we live in.
-I pay every bill
-i buy every bit of healthy food we consume, and cook 90 percent of it
-He drinks a 6 pack of IPA's nightly
-Plays video games entirely way too much
-He has no friends or hobbies and never leaves the house. I have ZERO privacy

The first 2 years of unemployment I was still paying for dinners out, vacations, events, etc. as this was what I was used to! I now have done nothing for the last year or more. I stopped going places, eating out, taking vacation, basically anything I was doing for fun has stopped because we have no money! I used to get my nails done once a month...they haven't seen a salon in a year! I don't think I can even wear sandals this summer. Lol😂

Anyway, just a vent. I have to break up, and it sucks. I am still trying to figure out how I am going to pull the trigger. I absolutely hate drama and confrontation. I am dreading it. Argh...

Soul searching after this mess.

[Anonymous]

OP - YOU convinced yourself he was someone else. I say this with compassion. He wasn’t hiding his freeloading. And you decided to do all the things you did. The beautiful thing about acknowledging your agency is that YOU can change your thoughts and actions to make your life better

[Anonymous]

You need to get out of this ASAP! He will drag you down until you have nothing left.

[Anonymous]

Please dump him.
You can get better.

[Anonymous]

Dumping him is a good idea.

And the first step of your soul search should be taking accountability and responsibility for yourself

He didn't trick you.


You accepted his bum ass.

[Anonymous]

He's using you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dumping him is a good idea.

And the first step of your soul search should be taking accountability and responsibility for yourself

He didn't trick you.


You accepted his bum ass.

OP here. Do you honestly think it was always like this? That I accepted him this way from the beginning? No, of course not. This has been a slow ride down the mountain.