Immigrant parents

[Anonymous]

If your elderly parents can be better off in their home country and on less money but one sibling insists on bringing them here, what are your financial responsibilities? What are your practical responsibilities if you live in another town? BTW sibling isn't asking anyone but obviously would expect it once they'll learn the scope, expense and complexity of eldercare in USA.

Parents have no preference but lean towards USA considering better medical facilities and less day to day stress than a third world country. Sibling is entry level wealthy with double income household, their spouse gets along well with parents and supports this decision as they want family atmosphere for their growing children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your elderly parents can be better off in their home country and on less money but one sibling insists on bringing them here, what are your financial responsibilities? What are your practical responsibilities if you live in another town? BTW sibling isn't asking anyone but obviously would expect it once they'll learn the scope, expense and complexity of eldercare in USA.

Parents have no preference but lean towards USA considering better medical facilities and less day to day stress than a third world country. Sibling is entry level wealthy with double income household, their spouse gets along well with parents and supports this decision as they want family atmosphere for their growing children.

"Another town" is too vague. Is this other town on the other side of the country, or a two minute drive?

[Anonymous]

Also, what is their citizenship status. It might not be easy to get them here on a permanent basis.

[Anonymous]

Do they speak English? There is a new modern tragedy of elderly aging +/- dementia having to navigate a 2nd language with nursing home staff, many of whom don't speak English as a first language either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your elderly parents can be better off in their home country and on less money but one sibling insists on bringing them here, what are your financial responsibilities? What are your practical responsibilities if you live in another town? BTW sibling isn't asking anyone but obviously would expect it once they'll learn the scope, expense and complexity of eldercare in USA.

Parents have no preference but lean towards USA considering better medical facilities and less day to day stress than a third world country. Sibling is entry level wealthy with double income household, their spouse gets along well with parents and supports this decision as they want family atmosphere for their growing children.

"Another town" is too vague. Is this other town on the other side of the country, or a two minute drive?

10 hr drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, what is their citizenship status. It might not be easy to get them here on a permanent basis.

Green card holders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do they speak English? There is a new modern tragedy of elderly aging +/- dementia having to navigate a 2nd language with nursing home staff, many of whom don't speak English as a first language either.

Dad does, mom doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Is the sibling paying for health insurance for your parents?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Bring them. The sibling has said will take care of them, why would you deprive sibling and parents.
It will be regrets later.

[Anonymous]

They will not qualify for Medicare nor Social Security (because they will not have contributed via payroll taxes for 40 quarters), nor will they qualify for Medicaid (no matter how low their income/resources) for the first five years they are in the US, so think through their health status and how they will pay for health care in our ridiculously expensive health care system. Your sibling probably does not want to pay out-of-pocket if they have/develop costly health care needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, what is their citizenship status. It might not be easy to get them here on a permanent basis.

Green card holders.

How can this be true if they don’t live here? GC status only allows living outside the U.S. for a finite period for valid reasons. If they don’t live here, how are they having GCs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, what is their citizenship status. It might not be easy to get them here on a permanent basis.

Green card holders.

How can this be true if they don’t live here? GC status only allows living outside the U.S. for a finite period for valid reasons. If they don’t live here, how are they having GCs?

They stayed here for few years when sibling had their babies, went back last year. Sibling wants them to come back and get their citizenship. They used travelers insurance here but mostly had check ups when visiting home country and also bought prescription in bulk for whole year. Sibling intends to get private insurance until they become eligible for free. Sibling is a physician so can treat minor stuff himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bring them. The sibling has said will take care of them, why would you deprive sibling and parents.
It will be regrets later.

Sibling and wife work full-time, eventually they'll want me to take parents to my house once parents can't care for themselves as I work part time and from home.

[Anonymous]

I love them but with my own health issues I can't be a full time caregiver.