AITA: visiting senior relatives edition

[Anonymous]

I have some relatives who are passing through town, and so this afternoon I offered to let them crash at my house. They are seniors (in their 80s), and one of them sometimes has insomnia at night. I’ve asked them to not wander around outside our house so that we can keep the alarm on, know our dog isn’t escaping, and -most importantly- not have them trip on the uneven ground in the darkness. When he visited last time, he did, in fact, go outside while we were sleeping even though we had asked him not to.

AITA? If I am ta, how can I not be short of letting people wander all night?

[Anonymous]

YTA Don’t host them if you don’t want to deal with them.

[Anonymous]

Show them where the light switch is, crate the dog, give him a flashlight, turn the alarm off you don’t need it if he’s wandering around.

[Anonymous]

You are not. Why did you offer to let them stay?

[Anonymous]

If they can't stay inside, they need to stay somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Show them where the light switch is, crate the dog, give him a flashlight, turn the alarm off you don’t need it if he’s wandering around.

This is what I would do. I have insomnia and sadly I suffer from dead-of-night panic attacks where I've *needed* to go outside and breath the fresh air. I would never refuse my guests that possibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Show them where the light switch is, crate the dog, give him a flashlight, turn the alarm off you don’t need it if he’s wandering around.

This is what I would do. I have insomnia and sadly I suffer from dead-of-night panic attacks where I've *needed* to go outside and breath the fresh air. I would never refuse my guests that possibility.

Me again. Not saying you're an ass. Just suggesting something.

[Anonymous]

Keep the dog in your room with the door closed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they can't stay inside, they need to stay somewhere else.

This is my two cents. Unless you live in a ginormous house where a guest can do all that wandering without waking the host they would have been better off in a hotel/were wrong to accept your offer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they can't stay inside, they need to stay somewhere else.

This is my two cents. Unless you live in a ginormous house where a guest can do all that wandering without waking the host they would have been better off in a hotel/were wrong to accept your offer.

They probably enjoy seeing their relatives that’s why they accept. They might not even realize what they are doing if they wake up at 2 am all dazed. Keep all the lights on outside and in and leave big notes on the door DO NOT OPEN DOOR. ALARM IS ON.

[Anonymous]

Don’t offer up your home to these guests anymore.

[Anonymous]

You can't tell an adult not to go outside. Give them the alarm code/put your dog in the room with you.

[Anonymous]

Stay your A** in the house. When we have guests we announce when the alarm goes on.
Open the door if you want, but I cannot guarantee you won’t have a coronary when the alarm starts shrieking.

[Anonymous]

Uhhh… I have never heard of people going outside in the middle of the night.

Tell them if they can’t stay inside the house- they can’t stay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't tell an adult not to go outside. Give them the alarm code/put your dog in the room with you.

Agree with this. Maybe you should have just invited them for a homemade dinner and then they could stay overnight at a hotel where they have the freedom to ::checks notes:: leave their bedroom when they want as a grown ass adult.