Social environment at SJC

[Anonymous]

Hello! We are considering SJC for DS. We are interested in a lot of things about it but I did want to ask about the kid culture there. What is it like? Is there a Mean Girls phenom?

[Anonymous]

Sorry I meant to write that we are considering it for DD

[Anonymous]

Never heard of this with any of my boys at SJC. Nice kids, great community. And one of mine was not an athlete, other is middling in non competitive teams.

[Anonymous]

Yes, mean girl and boy culture exists. But there are also a lot of really nice kids.

[Anonymous]

What clubs are active for kids that are not athletes, not in theater and not in band?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Yes there is a horrible mean girl culture. Mostly within the lacrosse and field hockey group that has transferred down to the class of 25 and maybe further.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes there is a horrible mean girl culture. Mostly within the lacrosse and field hockey group that has transferred down to the class of 25 and maybe further.

We know a family whose daughter transferred midyear this year as a junior out of SJC because the mean girl culture in the class of 2025 is so awful.

[Anonymous]

SJC is pretty diverse if she just steers clear of this one group she should be fine.

[Anonymous]

What does your student like to do (not perf arts or sports)?

[Anonymous]

I have a DD that graduated from SJC, and she was a nerd. Had her friends and never complained about "mean girls." I'm sure SJC has mean girls. Mean girls are going to be everywhere. Best thing is to teach your daughter not to care. She'll have success at any school.

[Anonymous]

There are “mean girls” everywhere. At every school. Hopefully we can try to reach our girls to ignore and rise above.

[Anonymous]

*teach!

[Anonymous]

There are mean girls everywhere. Even into adulthood. My daughter has had a rough middle school experience with this (and has also tried on some mean girl personas as a coping mechanism of being the victim of it) and has learned quite a bit in the process.
The good news is there are other friends to be made in any environment that will be removed from the situation.

[Anonymous]

SJC reminded me alot of my own 1980s high school experience. Social hierarchy based on extracurricular affiliations (cool jocks by team, nerds, losers, etc). It also reinforces traditional gender stereotypes - girls forced to wear short skirts - not allowed leggings even when its freezing out. You know your kid well enough to know where she will fit in.