What is “above average grooming and hygiene “?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I can't stop laughing at this thread. How about electrolysis???

The rest of this is really sad. Life is too short for this. Just get the hair removed! And do monthly mani-pedis, two botox treatments a year, and whatever else you need. Then you can sleep in, have a career and family, and go to the gym and out to dinner with friends instead of grinding aspirin and doing your own waxing! Lordy!

Electrolysis is a long, tedious, expensive and painful process and takes years before you can see results. But, sure - people should do whatever the heck they want to do. This pandemic is preventing many from going to salons but it is really an inconsequential issue of outward appearance.

If people are overwhelmed by doing just a bit of planning and organizing to do these simple home treatments that take mere minutes...then I think going to school, having a career and family, going to gym, doing volunteer work, meeting their social obligations, having hobbies and interests - must also be a struggle for them. Remember, there is not a high barrier to entry to become a beautician.

The title of the thread is "above average grooming and hygiene", so I don't understand why posters are getting triggered. Chill! Not one person gives a damn if someone else is not looking good. It is not in the same category as a person's civic duties like voting in this presidential election or wearing a mask. You can be unkempt and gross and it will not impact the nation's health and wellbeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I can't stop laughing at this thread. How about electrolysis???

The rest of this is really sad. Life is too short for this. Just get the hair removed! And do monthly mani-pedis, two botox treatments a year, and whatever else you need. Then you can sleep in, have a career and family, and go to the gym and out to dinner with friends instead of grinding aspirin and doing your own waxing! Lordy!

Electrolysis is a long, tedious, expensive and painful process and takes years before you can see results. But, sure - people should do whatever the heck they want to do. This pandemic is preventing many from going to salons but it is really an inconsequential issue of outward appearance.

If people are overwhelmed by doing just a bit of planning and organizing to do these simple home treatments that take mere minutes...then I think going to school, having a career and family, going to gym, doing volunteer work, meeting their social obligations, having hobbies and interests - must also be a struggle for them. Remember, there is not a high barrier to entry to become a beautician.

The title of the thread is "above average grooming and hygiene", so I don't understand why posters are getting triggered. Chill! Not one person gives a damn if someone else is not looking good. It is not in the same category as a person's civic duties like voting in this presidential election or wearing a mask. You can be unkempt and gross and it will not impact the nation's health and wellbeing.

It's the way women are talking about this like it's an achievement and not an indulgence. I'm not against indulgences. But if a guy were like, "here's how I structure my life in order to get a really good Halo score, and also if you can't find time to play video games then I think handling you other responsibilities must also be a struggle", I'd think that was pretty odd, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I can't stop laughing at this thread. How about electrolysis???

The rest of this is really sad. Life is too short for this. Just get the hair removed! And do monthly mani-pedis, two botox treatments a year, and whatever else you need. Then you can sleep in, have a career and family, and go to the gym and out to dinner with friends instead of grinding aspirin and doing your own waxing! Lordy!

Electrolysis is a long, tedious, expensive and painful process and takes years before you can see results. But, sure - people should do whatever the heck they want to do. This pandemic is preventing many from going to salons but it is really an inconsequential issue of outward appearance.

If people are overwhelmed by doing just a bit of planning and organizing to do these simple home treatments that take mere minutes...then I think going to school, having a career and family, going to gym, doing volunteer work, meeting their social obligations, having hobbies and interests - must also be a struggle for them. Remember, there is not a high barrier to entry to become a beautician.

The title of the thread is "above average grooming and hygiene", so I don't understand why posters are getting triggered. Chill! Not one person gives a damn if someone else is not looking good. It is not in the same category as a person's civic duties like voting in this presidential election or wearing a mask. You can be unkempt and gross and it will not impact the nation's health and wellbeing.

It's the way women are talking about this like it's an achievement and not an indulgence. I'm not against indulgences. But if a guy were like, "here's how I structure my life in order to get a really good Halo score, and also if you can't find time to play video games then I think handling you other responsibilities must also be a struggle", I'd think that was pretty odd, too.

45 minutes a day to shower, groom and get ready is not excessive. 1-2 hours a week to groom is not excessive because people certainly spend more time than that on DCUM or porn or on FB.

I think women are slammed when they do anything for themselves. Men certainly take pride in beautiful and well groomed wives and women do prop up cosmetic surgeries and beauty industries, so all of this fake concern that beauty is an indulgence and tut-tutting and attack is basically jealousy.

The DCUM beauty threads are filled with helpless grown up women who cannot color their hair for a zoom job interview, or women who are depressed because they look haggard and ugly in their 30s. The relationship forum is filled with men who don't find their wives attractive sexually and accomplished women who are not given the time of the day from men because they are unattractive. The Job forum is filled with women asking how they should dress and groom themselves to be treated well in their work place or for getting a promotion. So, our society is definitely putting a premium on good looks and youth of women. Rich women in showbiz can usually crack the code (J Lo) to looking youthful and beautiful and they can spend thousands on looking good. So the jealously on this forum is stemming from what? That some regular woman has figured out an affordable, quick and effective way to take care of herself and is looking great? No one needs any judgement. This is not so deep. Really, get a life! Or a new hair color or something!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I can't stop laughing at this thread. How about electrolysis???

The rest of this is really sad. Life is too short for this. Just get the hair removed! And do monthly mani-pedis, two botox treatments a year, and whatever else you need. Then you can sleep in, have a career and family, and go to the gym and out to dinner with friends instead of grinding aspirin and doing your own waxing! Lordy!

Electrolysis is a long, tedious, expensive and painful process and takes years before you can see results. But, sure - people should do whatever the heck they want to do. This pandemic is preventing many from going to salons but it is really an inconsequential issue of outward appearance.

If people are overwhelmed by doing just a bit of planning and organizing to do these simple home treatments that take mere minutes...then I think going to school, having a career and family, going to gym, doing volunteer work, meeting their social obligations, having hobbies and interests - must also be a struggle for them. Remember, there is not a high barrier to entry to become a beautician.

The title of the thread is "above average grooming and hygiene", so I don't understand why posters are getting triggered. Chill! Not one person gives a damn if someone else is not looking good. It is not in the same category as a person's civic duties like voting in this presidential election or wearing a mask. You can be unkempt and gross and it will not impact the nation's health and wellbeing.

It's the way women are talking about this like it's an achievement and not an indulgence. I'm not against indulgences. But if a guy were like, "here's how I structure my life in order to get a really good Halo score, and also if you can't find time to play video games then I think handling you other responsibilities must also be a struggle", I'd think that was pretty odd, too.

45 minutes a day to shower, groom and get ready is not excessive. 1-2 hours a week to groom is not excessive because people certainly spend more time than that on DCUM or porn or on FB.

I think women are slammed when they do anything for themselves. Men certainly take pride in beautiful and well groomed wives and women do prop up cosmetic surgeries and beauty industries, so all of this fake concern that beauty is an indulgence and tut-tutting and attack is basically jealousy.

The DCUM beauty threads are filled with helpless grown up women who cannot color their hair for a zoom job interview, or women who are depressed because they look haggard and ugly in their 30s. The relationship forum is filled with men who don't find their wives attractive sexually and accomplished women who are not given the time of the day from men because they are unattractive. The Job forum is filled with women asking how they should dress and groom themselves to be treated well in their work place or for getting a promotion. So, our society is definitely putting a premium on good looks and youth of women. Rich women in showbiz can usually crack the code (J Lo) to looking youthful and beautiful and they can spend thousands on looking good. So the jealously on this forum is stemming from what? That some regular woman has figured out an affordable, quick and effective way to take care of herself and is looking great? No one needs any judgement. This is not so deep. Really, get a life! Or a new hair color or something!!

+1000

Let this woman enjoy her routine and if some of us get inspiration for it let it BE. I swear, we’ve totally forgot how to live as a people. It’s just running from one thing to the next. Everyone needs downtime. Let AAG do her thang!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I can't stop laughing at this thread. How about electrolysis???

The rest of this is really sad. Life is too short for this. Just get the hair removed! And do monthly mani-pedis, two botox treatments a year, and whatever else you need. Then you can sleep in, have a career and family, and go to the gym and out to dinner with friends instead of grinding aspirin and doing your own waxing! Lordy!

Electrolysis is a long, tedious, expensive and painful process and takes years before you can see results. But, sure - people should do whatever the heck they want to do. This pandemic is preventing many from going to salons but it is really an inconsequential issue of outward appearance.

If people are overwhelmed by doing just a bit of planning and organizing to do these simple home treatments that take mere minutes...then I think going to school, having a career and family, going to gym, doing volunteer work, meeting their social obligations, having hobbies and interests - must also be a struggle for them. Remember, there is not a high barrier to entry to become a beautician.

The title of the thread is "above average grooming and hygiene", so I don't understand why posters are getting triggered. Chill! Not one person gives a damn if someone else is not looking good. It is not in the same category as a person's civic duties like voting in this presidential election or wearing a mask. You can be unkempt and gross and it will not impact the nation's health and wellbeing.

It's the way women are talking about this like it's an achievement and not an indulgence. I'm not against indulgences. But if a guy were like, "here's how I structure my life in order to get a really good Halo score, and also if you can't find time to play video games then I think handling you other responsibilities must also be a struggle", I'd think that was pretty odd, too.

45 minutes a day to shower, groom and get ready is not excessive. 1-2 hours a week to groom is not excessive because people certainly spend more time than that on DCUM or porn or on FB.

I think women are slammed when they do anything for themselves. Men certainly take pride in beautiful and well groomed wives and women do prop up cosmetic surgeries and beauty industries, so all of this fake concern that beauty is an indulgence and tut-tutting and attack is basically jealousy.

The DCUM beauty threads are filled with helpless grown up women who cannot color their hair for a zoom job interview, or women who are depressed because they look haggard and ugly in their 30s. The relationship forum is filled with men who don't find their wives attractive sexually and accomplished women who are not given the time of the day from men because they are unattractive. The Job forum is filled with women asking how they should dress and groom themselves to be treated well in their work place or for getting a promotion. So, our society is definitely putting a premium on good looks and youth of women. Rich women in showbiz can usually crack the code (J Lo) to looking youthful and beautiful and they can spend thousands on looking good. So the jealously on this forum is stemming from what? That some regular woman has figured out an affordable, quick and effective way to take care of herself and is looking great? No one needs any judgement. This is not so deep. Really, get a life! Or a new hair color or something!!

+1000

Let this woman enjoy her routine and if some of us get inspiration for it let it BE. I swear, we’ve totally forgot how to live as a people. It’s just running from one thing to the next. Everyone needs downtime. Let AAG do her thang!

These are all really excellent observations. I was never taught any grooming and I admit I struggle with the basics of doing my own hair and makeup. The only time I’ve spent 45 minutes to get ready was my wedding day.

[Anonymous]

Brush teeth- 2x daily
Wash face and throw on Cerave moisturizer- 2x daily
Shower -almost daily (was daily pre-pandemic)
Pluck random hairs as necessary
Wash hair once a week (it's thick and curly, any more dries it out)

Compared to some posts I see on DCUM, I'd say I'm above average.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brush teeth- 2x daily
Wash face and throw on Cerave moisturizer- 2x daily
Shower -almost daily (was daily pre-pandemic)
Pluck random hairs as necessary
Wash hair once a week (it's thick and curly, any more dries it out)

Compared to some posts I see on DCUM, I'd say I'm above average.

+ 1 For DMV it certainly is above average. If you were in LA you needed a brazilian butt lift and anal bleaching to be above average.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I take a shower once a day, brush and floss my teeth twice a day.
I also tweeze my eyebrows and trim the hairs as needed.
I wear my hair in natural waves and don’t style it. I don’t usually wear makeup.

What should I do to be above average?

-Laser hair removal to legs, bikini, underarms. Or shave as needed.
-Deep conditioning to hair once per week
-haircut/trim every 3-4 months
-body oil or good creme all over after showers.
-trim and file nails weekly

All of this is pretty basic for a young person who does not gave graying hair.

I haven’t shaved my legs in 10 years. Just stopped. No hair was growing. And for some reason after my last baby my underarm hair stopped growing too. Probably helps that I am Asian.

[Anonymous]

Some people are so upset by this ladies grooming routine, I can’t get over it. I certainly don’t do what she does, I’m more of an average groomer: I brush, floss, moisturize, remove hair from where it doesn’t need to be, shampoo and condition. But I’m certainly not offended someone else does more AND answered a specific question asked about above average grooming.

[Anonymous]

People who are offended by this woman’s routine are either jealous of her perceived good looks or jealous that she has the time and resources to take care of herself. Alternatively they are literally incapable of understanding that different people have different interests, which in its own way is psychopathic. I’d rather assume they are jealous than think there are people out there who are that obtuse.

I don’t do half the things that poster describes, but last night I did use a fancy and expensive body scrub. Did I do it for vanity? Not really, although I do like how smooth my legs feel this morning. I mostly just did it because I found it relaxing - and with the Sephora sale coming up I think I’ll buy more tomorrow!

Grooming is just one of many things, like reading or watching tv or going for a walk, that people sometimes like to schedule into their day for relaxation.

[Anonymous]

Bump.

[Anonymous]

It takes effort to achieve and maintain above average looks. Some of you are offended by this, probably because you don't have above average looks. As mentioned above, your husbands' eyes will be roving soon enough, if it isn't already happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes effort to achieve and maintain above average looks. Some of you are offended by this, probably because you don't have above average looks. As mentioned above, your husbands' eyes will be roving soon enough, if it isn't already happening.

Yes, but much of what the above average groomer does is her herself/her own hobby. Husbands care that you aren’t fat, sloppy, and gray. Husbands do not care or notice the difference if you use a homemade paraffin treatment on your legs versus slap on some store bought lotion after you shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bump.

Why?!

[Anonymous]

According to that first poster, I don't even count as a below average groomer. I am a failed groomer! whoa.

Shower mostly every day, wash my hair and face with different soap than I use for my body.
Cut my toenails and fingernails.
Use lotion if I'm ashy and dry.
Deoderant, perfume.
Pluck hair I don't want on me.

That's it!