ILs take/divide up leftovers without asking

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?

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I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.

I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.

Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?

These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?

Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?

OP said they have plenty of money.

Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.

Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???

How big was that box? Just make more potatoes. It’s the cheapest thing.

What’s cheaper than that is using the mashed potatoes you already made instead of storing them for a week plus and making new ones.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. I thought my family was dysfunctional but I can’t even imagine fighting over leftovers. You all sound low class.

It's some wanna be rich thing to be fretting about your own family being "low class". They are cut from the same cloth even if OP is putting on airs about being classy when she wants to hoard leftovers for herself. None of this is classy.

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Anonymous wrote:How hard is it to add an extra 25% to your portions as you prepare food?

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I love feeding people and I think it is a compliment when people want to take home leftovers. I also think that I don't know how to make small amounts of food. My table is always overflowing with food thanks to God's grace. It is a blessing to have guests and have the wherewithal to feed them and send them home with a care package. I think it is lovely and heartwarming.

I love how clueless and careless you are about the fact that so many people have been fired, or furloughed, and that grocery prices have skyrocketed.

Oh, so this is a poor people vent? Maybe the family members with jobs should be more generous and make more food to feed their relatives? Else, OP should speak up and not host TG, right? Let others know that she has been fired/furloughed and cannot afford extra food because grocery prices have skyrocketed.

There are other options too - cooking from scratch, having a vegetarian TG, asking family to chip in.... I mean why make excuses when you are low class and mind people packing TG leftovers?

These people literally bring their own Tupperware to take food without asking from multi-day hosts…and that’s not low class?

Are you mad at food insecure people not being classy enough?

OP said they have plenty of money.

Now but what about before? The scarcity mindset is real. Bit OP would rather get pissy about 4 day old mashed potatoes.

Well to be fair, the mashed potatoes are only 4 days old bc ILs boxed them up to take home rather than let everyone eat them the next day. Don't you find that weird???

How big was that box? Just make more potatoes. It’s the cheapest thing.

What’s cheaper than that is using the mashed potatoes you already made instead of storing them for a week plus and making new ones.

It's not cheaper, it would cost the same, just be half the work to make them once vs twice. I don't think these people care about fresh potatoes since they want to eat mashed potatoes for days.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG. I thought my family was dysfunctional but I can’t even imagine fighting over leftovers. You all sound low class.

It's some wanna be rich thing to be fretting about your own family being "low class". They are cut from the same cloth even if OP is putting on airs about being classy when she wants to hoard leftovers for herself. None of this is classy.

OP didn't say anything about class- the class-obsessed DCUM posters brought class into the discussion. It sounds like the ILs are bad guests all around and OP has just had it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happy to give folks leftovers and don’t really consider my parents guests; they are family. Seems like you’ve let this go on long enough that they think it’s fine. I’d be embarrassed to have an issue now, after a long time; my parents would probably think we were having money troubles. However he frames it, they are going to find you stingy and rude. Sounds like a very awkward Thanksgiving.

Um I would think my parents were “having money troubles” if they whip out their Tupperware from home at the end of Thanksgiving dinner to start shoving it into boxes to “claim” it so they can take it with them to eat at home three days later

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And have the runs 4,5,6 days later.

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Rude.

But I guess it could be worse:

My MIL took our daybed! Just took it apart, packed it up, and left. You are lucky I didn't call the cops, Susan. And this is why you have not been invited back.

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Anonymous wrote:Rude.

But I guess it could be worse:

My MIL took our daybed! Just took it apart, packed it up, and left. You are lucky I didn't call the cops, Susan. And this is why you have not been invited back.

Ok- Susan needs her own thread. I need to know more.

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Anonymous wrote:Rude.

But I guess it could be worse:

My MIL took our daybed! Just took it apart, packed it up, and left. You are lucky I didn't call the cops, Susan. And this is why you have not been invited back.

Ok- Susan needs her own thread. I need to know more.

PP here. LOL - yes, she is a piece of work. I may start my own thread, but in a nutshell:

She is a stereotypical older boomer. She is the center of the universe, and we all must cater to her. She has a net worth of 7 million (I have seen the paperwork, as my financially savvy husband was helping with something), but "will die broke - I am spending every last penny. You are not getting anything."

She would come to our house, bring nothing to contribute, eat everything in site, refuse to help in anyway, go apeshit if she was asked to babysit for an hour. But we still put up with her, as we were stupid at the time. We finally stopped the invites when the extreme favoritism with the grandchildren started. Favoritism destroys families. But she really loved stirring the sh*tpot, and playing up the favoritism.

Holidays are so pleasant without her. We typically travel south and truly enjoy being with our daughter and son-in-law, and a few close family/friends who know how to act right.

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I think OP is the disturbed one here. She WENT and took BACK the leftovers her in-laws took out of their tupperware containers to reserve????? Talk about hostile!!!!!!!!!

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I have more questions about Susan.

1. What kind of car does she have that your entire daybed fit inside of it?

2. What were you and DH busy doing that you didn't notice her with a screwdriver and dismantling the daybed?

3. How strong is Susan that she could do this! What is Susan's workout routine? I have some handy(wo)man work needed - is Susan available for hire?

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Anonymous wrote:Thank god I am not from one of those stingy food cultures where I feel territorial over leftover food going to the two old people who raised my husband.

You are a fing drama queen.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is the disturbed one here. She WENT and took BACK the leftovers her in-laws took out of their tupperware containers to reserve????? Talk about hostile!!!!!!!!!

What an insane take on what happened. You are one of those militant mils who thinks are dils are evil and should tolerate whatever crap their inlaws throw at them. Go back to 1950 weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know if this is regional or what but I used to be a guest and was never offered leftovers. Massachusetts.

I never heard of this before DCUM.

I was also born in MA, and in general nobody was sent home with leftovers, but if a kid REALLY liked something they were often given a ziplock of a couple extra. You liked this new pumpkin cookie I made? Here are two for the ride home. You decided this year that you actually love carrot cake? Here's an extra slice for tomorrow.

Same. I never heard of this until years ago someone posted about a cousin they despised because they would cruise in to the gathering late and not even bother to spend time with their relatives. The cousin would just take the tupperware, load it and leave.

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Anonymous wrote:I have more questions about Susan.

1. What kind of car does she have that your entire daybed fit inside of it?

2. What were you and DH busy doing that you didn't notice her with a screwdriver and dismantling the daybed?

3. How strong is Susan that she could do this! What is Susan's workout routine? I have some handy(wo)man work needed - is Susan available for hire?

LOL! I love that others see the insanity.

1. A van

2. Playing outside with our toddler.

3. It was one of those brass or brass looking (hollow) ornate daybeds that were popular in the 90s. No wood. I guess she dragged it outside & plopped it (piece by piece) in to her van.

She was supposedly inside packing to go home, came to the backyard to say goodbye, and rode off in to the sunset with the daybed. I ASSUME she thought (since it was in a second guest room), "well, they have other beds - they don't need this." No idea. I asked my husband to handle it, if he was so inclined. He was not so inclined.