Worst Wedding Present You Received

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a small brass gong

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll defend the bean counters. I bet they tracked thank you card tasks like I did - I used my invite list to record gifts, deleting it only after the thank you card was sent.

That’s fine but to hold it against them is weird and gauche.

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Anonymous wrote:Does this count? My brother and SIL did not get us a gift, not even a card. They had gotten married the year before and we got them a thoughtful gift that is displayed prominently in their home (so it’s not some piece of crap they don’t like). I couldn’t stand my SIL to begin with but this felt like such a slap in the face we hardly speak to them anymore.

When I see these stories, I assume that she thought he was getting the present because it’s his sister getting married and he thought she was getting the present because she’s a woman. Or that someone was 99% sure that had clicked through to purchase the gift on crate and barrel but in actuality the charge didn’t go through because of a computer glitch and then they never realized they didn’t get an order confirmation.

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Anonymous wrote:Does this count? My brother and SIL did not get us a gift, not even a card. They had gotten married the year before and we got them a thoughtful gift that is displayed prominently in their home (so it’s not some piece of crap they don’t like). I couldn’t stand my SIL to begin with but this felt like such a slap in the face we hardly speak to them anymore.

When I see these stories, I assume that she thought he was getting the present because it’s his sister getting married and he thought she was getting the present because she’s a woman. Or that someone was 99% sure that had clicked through to purchase the gift on crate and barrel but in actuality the charge didn’t go through because of a computer glitch and then they never realized they didn’t get an order confirmation.

Neither dhs sister who he is close to, nor my sister got us wedding presents. They were about 20 and 22 so I think they just figured they were part of their parent’s gift. We’re sentimental though and would have liked even something like a picture frame. Nbd. I would never bring it up. I gave them each 1k when they married.

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My MIL gave us a used vinyl office chair.

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Anonymous wrote:We got a very large book set — dozens of volumes, on a topic that neither of us was interested in. At the time we were both starting graduate school and in a life phase where we would be moving a lot and living in apartments. It was many many boxes to move. No one will take it for donation, and I can get rid of it on Craigslist. I sprained my wrist when it was delivered trying to life if off our front stoop because it weighs so much. The same set is available digitally in a searchable lightweight format, which is why literally no one wants it. The kicker is that I know it was not a regift and it cost a lot of money. It was such a waste. We have paid to move it 3 times, still have it and use it for things like lifting up a computer monitor or weighting down items. I just feel bad throwing it in the trash. I think the gift giver is just the type that thinks everyone likes what he likes and didn’t realize this was really a niche present — he didn’t want to be boring and just get something off the registry and genuinely thought this was a great gift.

What was the topic ?

I'm dying to know the topic! It must be something like military history to encompass so many books that a bulk pickup would be needed to take them all away!

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I was thinking like religious books of some sort.

Okay, I will come clean. It is the Oxford English Dictionarty.20 volume set. It weights 177 pounds. Periodically when I mention it to people they say “that’s so cool! I’d love the OED!” But when I offer it to them, they do not in fact actually want it. It basically needs its own bookcase. If you want it, post your email address here. Our version is many decades old so will not be updated like the digital version that is likely available through your public library.

I feel your pain. My grandpa bought each of his grown daughters a bound set of the Encylopedia Britannica in the 1980s.

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Anonymous wrote:Hand-knitted heavy wool blanket that would fit like, half of an adult. It's more like a table runner than a blanket. "Thanks."

I can’t knit and could never give such a gift but I’d appreciate receiving one.

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I didn’t have a wedding. My XH didn’t want one. He later wanted to get married for “tax reasons.” We divorced this year. I did get awesome kids from the relationship though.

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The least used gift were crystal chandeliers. I have them on display but never actually used them. The most surprising was an immersion blender, didn’t realize I needed one and ended up using it extensively

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Anonymous wrote:Does this count? My brother and SIL did not get us a gift, not even a card. They had gotten married the year before and we got them a thoughtful gift that is displayed prominently in their home (so it’s not some piece of crap they don’t like). I couldn’t stand my SIL to begin with but this felt like such a slap in the face we hardly speak to them anymore.

No, it doesn’t count for the reason above. No one owes you a gift. You would be a happier person if you didn’t bean count like this.

I think it’s rude to attend a wedding without a gift! My wedding registry was (IMO) very reasonable: literally had items from $5 to $400, with the majority being in the $50-100 range. One of my DH’s cousins (who is a young student who really could’ve gone along with their family gift) got us a $10 item which we loved and were really touched by. It was honestly kind of hurtful to have some well-off friends come (with guests!) and not even bring a card.

To me, it wasn’t about a cash grab or getting some expensive gift but the thought behind it.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it mildly horrifying that you would critique gifts. Maybe just be grateful people thought of you and donate the gifts you don't like?

I am grateful people came to my wedding, or sent gifts or congratulations. I'm not about to parse their taste or financial contribution, or lack thereof. That would be rude.

My thoughts exactly. We had a few people not give us gifts at all. I am still glad they were there to celebrate with us!

Holy shit that is so unbelievably rude. I'd never talk to them again.

Not PP, But to be fair, it is considered rude to attend the wedding of someone you consider close enough to invite without giving a gift—especially since we attended and in their weddings and gave a generous gift.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll defend the bean counters. I bet they tracked thank you card tasks like I did - I used my invite list to record gifts, deleting it only after the thank you card was sent.

That’s fine but to hold it against them is weird and gauche.

So is expecting a thank you card but yet here you are.

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TWO people gave us a hideous gold plated pair of cherubs with a clock on one belly and a barometer on the other

I have no idea where they found them.

Must have been a sale.

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Anonymous wrote:TWO people gave us a hideous gold plated pair of cherubs with a clock on one belly and a barometer on the other

I have no idea where they found them.

Must have been a sale.

OMG need a photo of this.

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Anonymous wrote:TWO people gave us a hideous gold plated pair of cherubs with a clock on one belly and a barometer on the other

I have no idea where they found them.

Must have been a sale.

OMG need a photo of this.

They sat in our basement for a decade still in the original packaging until we donated them to a charity. We were sorry to fo that to them but hopefully they found a home.