Do *any* straight women apply to Wellesley or the 7 sisters any more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My straight DD applied to Wellesley and Smith.

Serious question: Why ?

How do you know your daughter's sexual orientation ?

Why would a straight female apply to all female schools one of which is often referred to by former students as "the gayest place on earth" ?

Thank you in advance for your response. (Sorry for these questions, but it just seems so unnatural for a straight individual to inject herself into such an environment. Is she questioning her sexual orientation?)

I am straight (married 17 years now) and applied to both Smith and Wellesley, went to Wellesley. I loved the campus, the all-female atmosphere and not being shouted down or talked over by men in class. I also was not celibate the whole time, dated men from Harvard, MIT, and BC.

It's still common these days.
It's not different from any inter-campus dating.

[Anonymous]

Womens colleges have fewer apps and higher acceptance rates. Barnard is a much easier admit than Columbia. That said, check the intended major, curriculum and courses. New rules limiting Barnard cross registration with Columbia courses. I think it may be due to their contract and financial relationship with columbia. Also, depending on your politics, Barnard faculty/curriculum for many humanities and social science departments have a lens that is heaviliy skewed with the single framework of oppressor vs oppressee. Which is academically limiting. Check out the freshman writing seminar courses. We did a lot of research on Barnard bc my dd was considering it last year. Regarding straight/gay: our tour guide was a super wealthy straight girl from Shanghai who is there bc parents insisted on a single sex school. Very heavy lesbian/queer population which we expected. Other than dorms and advising, the schools are pretty integrated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My straight DD applied to Wellesley and Smith.

Hmmm....

Did she go? Hmnnnn….

Its one thing to be a straight woman who applies to Wellesley, Smith, any of the 7 Sisters. The question should be, is your daughter still straight while attending one of those colleges or is she now a lesbian. If she graduated from one of those schools, what is her sexual orientation now?

For all women who go to those schools, what is sexual orientation going into the school, while at school and after school? those would be interesting numbers.

Great point!

[Anonymous]

Everyone on this thread has an "objectively attractive" kid. Sure!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:College is still great place to meet and date. All 3 kids dated seriously and had long term relationships in college (2 sons and 1 daughter). 3 different schools, all private and coed t10/t20. We considered Wellesley and Barnard. When we toured, it felt Heavy with activist lesbians and a mix kids from traditional/conservative international families which is a funny mix. Not the right fit for my daughter. I loved the idea, but i think women's colleges need to redefine themselves. With all the gender identity stuff, womens colleges now welcome those who 'iidentify as women'. Imo, the women's rights movement has been displaced by lgbtq+, and the mission/rationale for women's colleges is hard to understand and feels a but obsolete.

Mount Holyoke is an excellent school. But on the campus tour they no longer describe their mission in relation to women. They say they have a proud history of educating “marginalized genders.” (At least this was the case ~ 6 years ago.)

We read an article in the school paper from a cisgender woman who said her boyfriend had been treated with hostility on campus because he represented “the patriarchy.”

This vibe influenced my daughter’s decision not to accept their admissions offer.

THIS x1000
PS What's the point of an all-women's education if it isn't all women?

[Anonymous]

Alumna here. The majority of people in the world are "straight". Yes, students self-select the schools they apply to and despite your assumptions, the vast majority at Wellesley are "straight". This generation just seems to enjoy identifying as fluid, etc. and some are also figuring themselves out.

But why does this concern you? Are you also concerned about lesbian and bisexual women who exist at coed schools that your daughter may encounter? Let your daughter decide on the best school for herself and leave your assumptions and phobias out of it.

[Anonymous]

My Mt. Holyoke friend announced she was a lesbisn around sophomore year.
After she graduated, she became interested in men again. The most activity she saw as a lesbian was kissing.
I would chalk some of the numbers up to the influences of being in a single sex school.
-signed, straight alumna of Barnard

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alumna here. The majority of people in the world are "straight". Yes, students self-select the schools they apply to and despite your assumptions, the vast majority at Wellesley are "straight". This generation just seems to enjoy identifying as fluid, etc. and some are also figuring themselves out.

But why does this concern you? Are you also concerned about lesbian and bisexual women who exist at coed schools that your daughter may encounter? Let your daughter decide on the best school for herself and leave your assumptions and phobias out of it.

Incels couldn't find mates, or their incel sons couldn't find mates. Blame it on lesbians. Convenient.

[Anonymous]

Wellesley is around 60% lesbian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My straight DD applied to Wellesley and Smith.

Serious question: Why ?

How do you know your daughter's sexual orientation ?

Why would a straight female apply to all female schools one of which is often referred to by former students as "the gayest place on earth" ?

Thank you in advance for your response. (Sorry for these questions, but it just seems so unnatural for a straight individual to inject herself into such an environment. Is she questioning her sexual orientation?)

I am straight (married 17 years now) and applied to both Smith and Wellesley, went to Wellesley. I loved the campus, the all-female atmosphere and not being shouted down or talked over by men in class. I also was not celibate the whole time, dated men from Harvard, MIT, and BC.

Noice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley is around 60% lesbian.

Source?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wellesley is around 60% lesbian.

Source?

The gap between their ears.

[Anonymous]

Your premise is quite alarmist. Don't conflate queer visibility with large numbers. College in general and women's colleges are likely a safe space with less likelihood of violent backlash. I'll take your word that your daughter is straight, but her being surrounded by boys in a coed high school didn't make her straight and her being surrounded by women, some who may be queer, won't make her queer. Despite your assertion, there is no hostility towards heteronormative women at a women's college. They're the majority.

Your fears and succumbing to stereotypes say a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

You seem to already believe what you wrote. You didn't just ask a question, you wrote out your thesis. No internet stranger can change your mind. Just a heads up, there are lgbtq students and social activists at coed schools too. Maybe no school will be acceptable for you and your daughter?

[Anonymous]

What are you really asking? Whether your daughter will be recruited to the other side by a butch lesbian? Or whether your daughter be able to meet men to date that will lead to a future son-in-law? If your daughter is straight, the answer to the first question is no and the answer to the second question is yes.

Instead of obsessing over your prurient interests, maybe instead consider academic experience? Professor quality, class size, major/course availability based on your daughter's interests? Alumni network?