Where are the best places to approach women in public?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.

Don't get angry when women say no. Learn that smiling and saying 'no thanks' does not mean to keep trying.

Walk away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, DCUM is not the best place to ask. The majority of DCUM users are middle-aged women who are frustrated in life, understandably, because they are juggling parenthood and marriage and careers.

The only difference between "looking like a creep" and "being interesting and approachable" is going to be subjective and will depend on the woman in question. If you're handsome and have good social skills, you will face a lot less judgement, surprise, surprise! Your intent and good character don't actually matter in those few minutes, even though all these women think they do.

We are frustrated with life because society hates women and we are sick of it

[Anonymous]

If you’re good looking - anywhere

If you’re not - nowhere

[Anonymous]

I’m a 30-year-old man, and over the past six months, I’ve approached fifteen different women in public with positive results. During that time, I initiated conversations about fifteen times—only two women declined because they were married. The other thirteen shared their phone numbers, and I later followed up to arrange dates. I played golf at Stanford, so I often wear a “Stanford Cardinal Golf” shirt when I’m out, which might contribute to the good responses I’ve received.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised more people did not work this out and get over their fears in high school.

I remember building up my courage, approaching a girl to ask for her phone # after class. I didn't think I might have to see her everyday for the next three years! She might tell her friends and she'll laugh at me! My friends might find out and laugh, etc.

I'm Gen X so maybe a little older than most of the posters here.

The “me too” movement didn’t exist back then. The current generation has been raised to be more careful and respectful. They are less courageous because they have so much more to lose. They don’t want to take a risk in public when they can do it on dating sites.

There is a big difference between talking to someone and risking a me too moment if you don’t know the difference, please don’t talk to women. At all.

These days, talking to a woman can be really risky. If she doesn't like you, she might claim you harassed her. People will believe her. By the time people realize she was lying, your reputation would have been completely destroyed.
Statistics show that most men are not willing to take that risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re good looking - anywhere

If you’re not - nowhere

Best answer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any regular club activity where people attend on a regular schedule. You see the same people and over time you acknowledge them by saying hi and then you start to chat. Think a yoga class or anything like that. Be friendly to the group early on and eventually you can make a connection….or not. Fitness/sports oriented are ideal because you have a common interest and you can see what someone really looks like.

Ugh, no thank you. I am doing those things because I genuinely like the activities and am trying to learn/appreciate new things. I’m trying to get in better shape *for me.* it is hard enough to find good groups, gyms, classes, etc. Please don’t ruin it for me by asking me out! That’s not why I’m there. If I want a date, I’ll use the apps, but please don’t ruin my hobbies!

I do work out classes “for me” but if, over time, I start chatting with a guy and again, over time, he asks me out for coffee I’m ok with that. I gave up on apps.