Look, nobody knows what’s coming. The worst case scenario we’ll have to somehow manage our elderly parents at home with us. That’s what ppl in poor countries do. It’s hard but it’s not impossible. |
Have you done it. My in law had severe dementia. She was a loving and kind person to turned abusive, then couldn’t do anything or be left alone. Stooped talking, bathroom, etc. I did it for a year. 24-7 care till I was to my breaking point with young kids and couldn’t leave the house. No money for help. We had no choice but a long term Medicaid bed. |
No, that’s not what they are saying. |
It is only possible to keep the house IF there is a community spouse. But if an elderly person lives at home and is cared for by an adult child, the house has to go if the adult child is no longer able to care safely for their parent at home and must move into LTC. There might be a situation where the house is now in the adult child’s name, but there is at least a 5-year look back period to see if there has been a divestiture of assets. |
My FiL needed a Hoyer lift and two aides for 14 months. There was absolutely NO way my 80+ MiL and 50+ developmentally disabled SiL could’ve managed this at home. No way. OTOH, my father has dementia, remains quite amiable, and is able to remain living at home though now with a near FT aide as he is a flight risk and no longer able to manage his ADLs. If he were not amiable, then it would probably be impossible for my mom to manage, especially if he were aggressive. |
The difference is they can afford that. With Medicaid it means there is no money. |
There are lots of rules to keep the house and sone savings if a partner or disabled family. |
How about you provide the cites for what you keep claiming. As I indicated, the community spouse is able to keep the house and some savings ($150ish, perhaps more now with COLA). If the community spouse then needs LTC in a nursing home, then the house needs to be sold @ FMV (doesn’t need to be sold @ any price if the market is under water) IF the house is in their name. There may be legal steps the family took to keep the house out of consideration for Medicaid LTC, but that would need to have been done at least five years prior to the application. Perhaps there are exceptions that I am not aware of, but I have been through this process a number of times in two different states and the only instances in which the house was not sold was when it was in the name of a family member and that action had been taken at least five years prior to the application (and, of course, when there is a community spouse still residing in the home). I am not aware of circumstances of when there is a disabled family member - separate from the community spouse - living in the home and able to retain it. But this would not apply to an adult child who is the caretaker, unless they are disabled. I am confident that there are probably stringent guidelines defining disabled and is not determined solely by that individual. There are a few fora on DCUM where folks come seeking guidance on what can be difficult legal/economic matters. Vague claims of what can be done are not going to cut it when one has to complete the very detailed Medicaid app for LTC. Of course, comments in the elder care forum should never substitute for legal advice, yet we also do not need to perpetuate claims that are not accurate. Or have so many exceptions that they do not apply to the majority of people. |
With the last few days' worth of news, seems safe to say that if they are coming for Social Security, they will probably gut LTC Medicaid first. |
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So then it's up to you to help them, or let them live with medicaid facilities. I just detailed how my LMC/lower income parents managed to amass a decent amount of savings---because they didn't live nicely, just with the bare minimum. They didn't have AC (live-in VA) until I was out of college, drove cars without AC until then as well. But yes if your parents don't save you have two choices |
Right now, the ultra rich will continue to use the legal means to avoid paying taxes. Look at WA state--they implemented a 7% Cap Gains tax in 2022, on amounts over $250K, not from home sales, so basically just targeted at Stock Sales/STock options for the rich. Not shockingly, Bezos move his "primary residence" to Florida shortly afterwards (a state with NO taxes). He's not the only one to do that---if you are able to easily do it, you will. We are in the W2 rich, and we pay the max. There are no legal ways to avoid it. So I defiantly don't want to pay more. I want to tax the ultra wealthy but that definately won't happen in next 4 years. |
I'm not the PP. Your parents saved and...they were also lucky. My parents were very frugal with five children, one who was developmentally disabled and lived with them for nearly their whole life. (Interesting how the state provides little money when an AC with a disability lives at home, but really amps up the monthly check when they are in a group home.) My father's sister and her children needed support at various points along the way due to fleeing an abusive spouse. Yes, she worked FT, but not every job pays enough to "amass a decent amount of savings," especially when you are a single mom. My parents lived a life similar to your parents, though their frugality - no AC in house or car - extended until way after we were out of the home. And then it was a bare minimum. So, again, your parents saved and they were also lucky enough to not have to part with savings at various junctures because other family members were in need. |
Or maybe just one choice — grandma moves into the basement— if Republicans gut federal Medicaid funding to pay for tax cuts. |
No but my older family all did it, not with dementia but other ailments. Only one mentally ill relative (grandma) went to a psych ward. |