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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

Jesus. You’re ranting and raving about a hypothetical. Go for a walk.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

This. I am so glad my kids seem to have friends whose parents model inclusivity and kindness. It's not nearly as hard as the defensive posters are pretending it is.

How many fringe kids were in your kids homecoming group? Just curious.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

Jesus. You’re ranting and raving about a hypothetical. Go for a walk.

Must be nice to not have a kid for whom this is not hypothetical. Be a decent human.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

Jesus. You’re ranting and raving about a hypothetical. Go for a walk.

Must be nice to not have a kid for whom this is not hypothetical. Be a decent human.

Shut up blow hard. One of my kids has no u at school and is bullied. We aren’t waiting for invites from any of those kids. We focus on outside of school friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

Jesus. You’re ranting and raving about a hypothetical. Go for a walk.

Must be nice to not have a kid for whom this is not hypothetical. Be a decent human.

Shut up blow hard. One of my kids has no u at school and is bullied. We aren’t waiting for invites from any of those kids. We focus on outside of school friends.

I highly doubt that. You're just too much of a nasty, calloused person for that to be true.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

Jesus. You’re ranting and raving about a hypothetical. Go for a walk.

Must be nice to not have a kid for whom this is not hypothetical. Be a decent human.

Shut up blow hard. One of my kids has no u at school and is bullied. We aren’t waiting for invites from any of those kids. We focus on outside of school friends.

I highly doubt that. You're just too much of a nasty, calloused person for that to be true.

Lol. You can’t walk it back now. You’re a oiece if work. So kind!

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

This. I am so glad my kids seem to have friends whose parents model inclusivity and kindness. It's not nearly as hard as the defensive posters are pretending it is.

I can't believe people are saying what they're saying. No compassion. No empathy. Just raising self-centered kids. Literally asking friends/people they know if they're set or need an invite shouldn't raise this visceral reaction in some of you. Some of you are the problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

Jesus. You’re ranting and raving about a hypothetical. Go for a walk.

Must be nice to not have a kid for whom this is not hypothetical. Be a decent human.

+1. Some of you are horrible.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

This. I am so glad my kids seem to have friends whose parents model inclusivity and kindness. It's not nearly as hard as the defensive posters are pretending it is.

I can't believe people are saying what they're saying. No compassion. No empathy. Just raising self-centered kids. Literally asking friends/people they know if they're set or need an invite shouldn't raise this visceral reaction in some of you. Some of you are the problem.

Exactly. It's ming boggling.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

This. I am so glad my kids seem to have friends whose parents model inclusivity and kindness. It's not nearly as hard as the defensive posters are pretending it is.

How many fringe kids were in your kids homecoming group? Just curious.

First of all, stop calling them "fringe kids". It's offensive.
Second of all, OP wasn't saying to include random kids. She was saying to check in with friends/acquaintances about their plans. Most likely most will have plans or no interest in going but there is an off chance someone wants to go and doesn't have a friend group. Including that person is not going to kill anyone.

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I actually think this is a poor message to give kids. I don’t want my kids to feel socially responsible for others well being. I except them to be nice in person to others, and to not gossip, but past that, I’m not telling them whom to invite where. That is up to them. And they shouldn’t feel guilt for not thinking of someone. That isn’t their problem. Where does “inclusiveness” start and stop? You cannot possibly account for every acquaintance. I advise my teens to go with whomever they want to go alone and meet up with whenever is there and have fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

This. I am so glad my kids seem to have friends whose parents model inclusivity and kindness. It's not nearly as hard as the defensive posters are pretending it is.

How many fringe kids were in your kids homecoming group? Just curious.

First of all, stop calling them "fringe kids". It's offensive.
Second of all, OP wasn't saying to include random kids. She was saying to check in with friends/acquaintances about their plans. Most likely most will have plans or no interest in going but there is an off chance someone wants to go and doesn't have a friend group. Including that person is not going to kill anyone.

THIS. Some of you are being deliberately obtuse in order to justify raising your kids in a shi---ty way. No one is saying go up to someone you've never met/talked to and invite them to Hoco. Jesus, people.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think this is a poor message to give kids. I don’t want my kids to feel socially responsible for others well being. I except them to be nice in person to others, and to not gossip, but past that, I’m not telling them whom to invite where. That is up to them. And they shouldn’t feel guilt for not thinking of someone. That isn’t their problem. Where does “inclusiveness” start and stop? You cannot possibly account for every acquaintance. I advise my teens to go with whomever they want to go alone and meet up with whenever is there and have fun.

It's not their problem making sure their friends have a plan/are set for hoco? It may come as a surprise to you but kids can have friends in different friend groups or just be friends with individual kids. Are you suggesting your kid shouldn't reach out to their actual friends to make sure they're set for Hoco because that's a burden you don't want them to have? If so, WOW. No wonder this world is as effed as it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

This. I am so glad my kids seem to have friends whose parents model inclusivity and kindness. It's not nearly as hard as the defensive posters are pretending it is.

How many fringe kids were in your kids homecoming group? Just curious.

First of all, stop calling them "fringe kids". It's offensive.
Second of all, OP wasn't saying to include random kids. She was saying to check in with friends/acquaintances about their plans. Most likely most will have plans or no interest in going but there is an off chance someone wants to go and doesn't have a friend group. Including that person is not going to kill anyone.

Amen. My kids have large/overlapping friend groups. They naturally ask each other what plans are, and if someone isn't sure, the groups invariably ask if someone wants to join whatever they're doing. These are called social skills, which seem to be challenging for some posters.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so you expect the kids that are organizing their own things and going with their own friends to reach out to the kids that they aren't really friends with to see if they want to tag along?

Sorry, but no. As a PP said, this isn't pre-k. You don't have to invite the whole class to your party anymore.

Yes, it would be the nice/right thing to do! That is what I am saying.

It might be nice, but it isn't how the world works. If you are implying to your children that it is, you are part of the problem with how they are developing social skills. You might need to call in someone to help you with those skills.

I could be how it works. But you teach your kid that it's ok to exclude or to be obtuse about other kids maybe needing a little help or invitation. That's on you and how YOU are shaping your kid (and "the world") not me. (NP).

Nope. Prepare your child for the road not the road for your child. You do the parenting don’t expect teens to bail you out.

Translation. Prepare your child for assH7les in the world such as me and my child.

Don’t be aholes then.

Yeah, longing to be included is such an ahole trait. Totally the same as what you describe.

So your kid doesn’t have to put in the effort but other kids do?

OMG. Please just stay away from people. Like all of us.

Keep blaming others.

I'm not blaming others, you dipshit. OP expressed a nice sentiment and only aholes like you go and shit all over her idea that it might be nice to include the kids who might be struggling. I'm so glad that you and your kids are perfect in every way and NEVER EVER need help with anything. And when you do, I hope you don't get it.

This. I am so glad my kids seem to have friends whose parents model inclusivity and kindness. It's not nearly as hard as the defensive posters are pretending it is.

How many fringe kids were in your kids homecoming group? Just curious.

First of all, stop calling them "fringe kids". It's offensive.
Second of all, OP wasn't saying to include random kids. She was saying to check in with friends/acquaintances about their plans. Most likely most will have plans or no interest in going but there is an off chance someone wants to go and doesn't have a friend group. Including that person is not going to kill anyone.

FWIW, OP sorta changed her story after people reacted. Her very first post literally says "kids they know." It does not say friends, nor does it says acquaintances.

"Kids they know" means lots and lots of people. The kid that sits next to them in Science. The other kid at the bus stop that has their headphones on. The kid whose locker is next to theirs.

I think that's how a lot of interpreted her post. And truthfully, I think that's always she meant; she just backtracked after so much pushback.