Spending Mother's Day with MIL- WWYD

[Anonymous]

I think it was unrealistic of you to believe that people would be coming from out of town for a Saturday event and then they would not still be around Sunday; That they would all just go home immediately after Saturday.

From your mother-in-law’s perspective, she wants to maximize the time with all of these out of town people that don’t normally get to socialize together. That is likely your husband’s belief too. All of these people That is likely your husband’s belief too. All of these people have traveled so why not get together some more that weekend. I think it’s odd that there would be effectively a family reunion on Saturday that did not have events on Sunday as well.

You seem to be assuming that Mil is simply trying to undermine you and does not care about your feelings. Are you sure she’s not just one of these ‘the more the merrier’ people who cannot imagine that everybody doesn’t want to get together all in one big group?

Honestly, I don’t understand why the exact day of Mother’s Day is so important to you. Unless you were using it as some kind of test as to whether or not your spouse loves you or whether he loves his mother more or all that BS. Personally, I find those kinds of games to be repugnant. If what you want, is a whole weekend of the family catering to you and making you feel good, why not ask for it the weekend after the official Mother’s Day? Or, if you spend five hours with his family on that Sunday, there’s still a whole lot of the day left to do stuff just you and your immediate family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it was unrealistic of you to believe that people would be coming from out of town for a Saturday event and then they would not still be around Sunday; That they would all just go home immediately after Saturday.

From your mother-in-law’s perspective, she wants to maximize the time with all of these out of town people that don’t normally get to socialize together. That is likely your husband’s belief too. All of these people That is likely your husband’s belief too. All of these people have traveled so why not get together some more that weekend. I think it’s odd that there would be effectively a family reunion on Saturday that did not have events on Sunday as well.

You seem to be assuming that Mil is simply trying to undermine you and does not care about your feelings. Are you sure she’s not just one of these ‘the more the merrier’ people who cannot imagine that everybody doesn’t want to get together all in one big group?

Honestly, I don’t understand why the exact day of Mother’s Day is so important to you. Unless you were using it as some kind of test as to whether or not your spouse loves you or whether he loves his mother more or all that BS. Personally, I find those kinds of games to be repugnant. If what you want, is a whole weekend of the family catering to you and making you feel good, why not ask for it the weekend after the official Mother’s Day? Or, if you spend five hours with his family on that Sunday, there’s still a whole lot of the day left to do stuff just you and your immediate family.

Anyone who pressures someone else to host 50 people BY DEFINITION does not give a crap about that person! The OP gave in to the insanely rude demand that she host this shower only if MIL lets her chill out on Mothers Day. MIL being the nasty user that she is said sure knowing that she would never honor this. OP is being used as a free host and caterer for MIL to throw the cousin a shower. Yuck. Hate people like this so much.

[Anonymous]

Your husband can go. You stay home alone.